I really thought we formed a consensus about the whole sexual harassment thing like 15 years ago.
The only consensus we formed was that activists will continue to their last breath exaggerating every situation they encounter in any way they can think of to justify their continued aggression. These people don't care about women's rights, they are just looking for any excuse to inflate their own egos without any regard for reality or the truth.
It is difficult to go wrong with the default assumption that everyone has a right to go around without having to constantly say "no, touching me, or grabbing me, or kissing me, or licking me, or biting me, or holding me down, or anything further is not something others should assume is just ok" to everyone they meet.
I'm a guy, I've actually had a--to be fair, rather attractive--female boss grab my obliques and give them a quick squeeze.
It's a weird situation, she has lots of power there, but I've got all the physical power, so it wasn't a matter of "oh god I can't do anything here" I could easily stop her, and she could easily fire me, but it was definitely enlightening as to what it must be like for someone in a situation where they have
no control.
Myself, I did build my muscles to be useful and pretty, but even when I was hanging around with my gay roommate for a while I never had someone just do that.
Even guys who know exactly what guys like make a point to check and see if it is ok to start anything. I chuckle and thank them for the flattery, note that things downstairs don't work for other guys, that's it generally, though some would ask me to let them know if that changes, but like I said, there are ways to approach someone with CLEAR sexual intentions, communicate those interests, and never cross over the line.
Guy walks up and grabs for my junk I'm going to very nicely catch his wrist and put him on the floor, he says sorry, I'll say sorry, that's it. You actually grab it and I pop you in the nose, you've got nobody to blame for it but yourself.
Having someone then come and start telling me that I overreacted would be pretty fucking awful, and again, no slight intended to the women out there, but I don't think I'm going to lose out on the "intimidating someone in my personal space" game to very many people if I let the rage slip, crazy is scary. I've got power and control and security in these sorts of situations which a young woman dealing with an older male boss probably won't have, and it would still suck to have someone even
try to disrespect me and act like they can just do what they want with me. So no, fuck all that bullshit "it's just activists exaggerating shit to be aggressive and fuel their ego" nonsense, trying to argue over a definition or whatever is one thing, but that?
Fuck outta here with that shit dude. Have you been molested or worse, do you have friends or family who have? Do you
understand how vile it is to try to spin "he was kissing and grabbing me in private areas" into "activists exaggerating little things" and then act almost outraged about how they "don't care about women's rights" as if
you do?