... not sure what ahen means. When? In that case, almost never. Just about the only time it's particularly applicable to interpersonal interaction is when one or the other person is interested in pursuing a sexual relationship. All the rest of the time I have just as few fucks to give on the subject as the person in question is seeking to have with me. I don't need to know what you do in your bedroom (or wherever) to teach you, work with you, learn from you, etc., etc., etc., and knowing will do little to nothing regarding how I go about those things, which are vastly more important and take up significantly more time of anyone's life. Screwin's just not really that important in the grand scheme of things. Only so many hours of the day, and most people spend most of their time doing other things.
Generally not, but there
are some exceptions. Most of the latter are themselves exempt when the person in question isn't indulging in it, though. Pedophilia would be the obvious example; got no beef for the folks that are oriented in that direction so long as they're not actually inflicting it on kids, but if they are, yeah, there's some judgment involved. Heuristic there is mostly just excessive/non-consensual harm. Anything that doesn't involve one or both is just kinda eh. No one being hurt permanently/significantly and/or without their own wish and I have trouble really understanding why I should care, 99+% of the time.
And yeah, a bit. Thought of homosexuality (well, vis a vis my own gender. The other one getting it on with itself has always been appealing
) doesn't bother me
nearly as much as it did when I was younger. Used to be pretty icky, now it's something I can look at, at times, and go "Yeah, okay, that's pretty hot," even if it still generally doesn't do much for me. Probably a lot closer to bisexual than I was a decade or two ago. It's been a slow thing, though, not anything that just suddenly happened.