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[Robot Parade Leader]

Problems with stress and being upset

I get really anxious, stressed and upset Not quite "angry," because that makes you think of somebody screaming at the top of their lungs or punching somebody. Not it.

That said, I just can't stand people asking me question when I clearly either a.) don't want to talk about it b.) don't have an answer and they know these things or should. It's like they feel entitled to speak/question regardless of the other person who doesn't want to be in the conversation and a favorite phrase of theirs seems to be "I'm just saying." Yup, I knew. Still wishing that wasn't the case. I ask people to stop and they just look at me like I'm nuts.

I realize the following:
A.) This is at least partially my problem. Probably more than partially.
B.) People are going to always keep asking questions (stupid or otherwise) even and especially if you don't want them to.
C.) I need to find some way to deal with this on my end, because there is no other option.

It's not an anger problem yet but I just .... it gets to me a lot.

Ideas?

Please and thank you.

[ChairmanPoo]

I think it's alright to say that you don't want to talk about something.

[Robot Parade Leader]

May I please ask what to do when the other person insists upon talking about that thing you asked not to talk about?

I basically have to deal with both regular and toxic people. Sadly.

[ChairmanPoo]

Keep calm (at least outwardly) and polite (soft smile) and insist that you won't talk about subject X. Dont ellaborate, and don't give reasons why. You just dont want to. Over and over.

Keeping calm and polite when people are annoying you is a very good skill to learn, too.

[MidnightJaguar]

Keep calm (at least outwardly) and polite (soft smile) and insist that you won't talk about subject X. Dont ellaborate, and don't give reasons why. You just dont want to. Over and over.

Keeping calm and polite when people are annoying you is a very good skill to learn, too.

Listen well to this man, for he speaks the truth.

[Trapezohedron]

Or if they still insist, tell them you won't say it again that you don't want to talk with a stern look.

[cango]

one reason for social stress comes from trying to satisfy everyone. let them think whatever they want, you just tell them you don't want to deal with their queries

[Catmeat]

Use your human right to say you do not concent to a conversation.
If this doesnt work after calmy saying it a few times, walk away.
Everybody above is correct, im just icing the iced cake

[TheBiggerFish]

PTW.

I have the same problem sometimes...

[Robot Parade Leader]

It just seems as though   I   have to be on my best behavior all the time

Anyone else can just go completely nuts or scream or whatever.
I must be a saint

[Vector]

-snip-

[Robot Parade Leader]

I don't. Others do. I feel like I want to, because I'm just at a complete loss for what to do.

People live in dream land and want their "what abouts?" I know how to do things with option A or B. They want C because it sounds better to them. I can't do that. I tell them this and they scream. They just won't believe the real world

My boss and my job won't let me give crazy customer what they want. I will get fired if I do. I am going to get yelled at for something that isn't my fault or in my control, because I'm there and I can't fight back. I'm going to have to take some abuse and that sucks. How do I deal with this?

[TheBiggerFish]

www.notalwaysright.com

Vent.

[ChairmanPoo]

No. Don't vent. It might get back to you.

[TheBiggerFish]

No. Don't vent. It might get back to you.

This is why you do not include personally identifying information when venting.