I think it's worth mentioning that the main reason I went from blitzing C'tis to moving slowly against Arco was that I was worried about a few things, among which were:
1. Arco mind hunting all my commanders to death if I didn't keep astral mages in each army
2. Being backstabbed if I pulled all my military north to drown Arco in bodies, or worse, losing so many troops and mages that it would be impossible to survive the next war, or having them all crippled by Burden of Time while they were outside of my dominion (while I had Gift of Health up).
3. Limited iron blizzard casters, and slow recruitment rate for them since both the mage and priest that can cast it are cap-only.
In practice, by not intervening directly on Vanarus' behalf when they asked for help, and by not crushing Arco quickly, I allowed Oceania to grow out of control (probably they were already too big after eating marignon, though). I also didn't pay much attention to the battles there, which meant I was also lacking in intel when I did end up at war with Oceania.
I attempted to negotiate covert aid for Vanarus in the form of gem or item exchanges, but they weren't interested.
I also still had to give my most essential mages boots of youth to protect them from Burden of Time, even with GoH up to cure afflictions, until I dispelled it anyways.
(I've had enough experience with games where I expanded faster than everyone else and was never attacked by more than one or two at a time, and went on to win, along with games where I was blocked in and crushed by a larger nation, that I should know how bad an idea it is to allow anyone to expand unchecked, and yet I ended up attacking the smallest remaining nation and not trying to negotiate peace)
P.S. If Asphodel (Asp-hotel
) was spelled "arcosphodel" nobody could call arcoscephale* arco.
* I had to look that up because I never type it out, and I had two missing letters
P.P.S. Golems are kind of shitty since they can't regenerate, among other reasons (such as low prot, att, and def). I've never really used them extensively before, but there were lots more important reasons I lost than that I blew pearls on golems - I had an income of 25 pearls per turn, iirc, and only stopped summoning them when it became apparent that they weren't working so well anymore against Arco.
Oh, and the golem and other guy who dropped in on Batimor and got crushed by a defending army was chiefly a failure of scouting. I couldn't see the army nearby and didn't expect one to appear on Batimor that turn since Oceania's thrones on my southern border were still basically undefended.