Goodness my post is late
Also posting to remind that we're all here for you Cado!
In response to the cursing and things, my Mom is heavy duty religious. To the point of zealotry if I would even suggest not going to church anymore. (Good upbringing morals wise but... you get older and you see the growing pushes against open thinking of... well, virtually everything.)
[...]and refusing any counsillor not Mormon (though my counsillor is actually quite helpful and understanding)[...]she didn't agree with seeing a counsillor my dad had set up who specializes in sexuality, and now here by getting rid of what is mine by all accounts.
I am under the impression that your mother does not fully know how the Counseling profession works, given this particular preference.
In a way, finding a Mormon councilor can help--but probably not in the way I assume she wants [I'm assuming she wants a Mormon Councilor because it aligns with her faith, in which she hopes that such a councilor will convince or 'fix' you, or anything parallel to those ideas.] Your Dad has the best idea though. The thing with Guidance and Counsel is that things like being trans
is OK with nothing wrong towards it,
regardless of the religious or otherwise beliefs of the practitioner, that there has been specialized teaching towards such a topic in order to give the best quality aid available in the context of our realistic setting (because of prejudice and other concerns which surround those topics)--this is explicitly stated
within the history of such a profession {Made a messy note in the 1970's that it was also a year for LGBTQ}. If able to go to a 'Mormon' Councilor, inquire for a parent-student counseling session--there is
no way the councilor will go against you (talk to your dad/current councilor first though. This is imperative if the last sentence in this paragraph is going to be followed). Put in mind that any bias of religion and otherwise does not phase the Counseling profession :3 (It's reminding me of a question in that context.)
Ethical/Unethical + Why? [In an essay]
"Counselor Jessie, refused to take in a client who is a gay person. According to him, this is outside his expertise and more importantly, would deviate from his religious values."
The context also follows the manner of reasoning to say Counseling is a neutral profession in regards to religious undertones.
To note it down here:
> Regardless of religion--if the professional thinks they cannot accomodate the client's needs--
they should be referred to one who can. Religion shall hold no part in one's acceptance or deference of accepting a client.
In your context of Canada, Cado, this is stated within the ethical guidelines of Psychology. Taking into my context
how these are written--it all follows within the introduction and principle towards the dignity of the client.
-- In this particular context, [looking at what's written about your mom] it's religious
interpretations/beliefs rather than religion itself.
> The referring person is also under that responsibility--any bias on part of that person towards the specialization of the professional within the Guidance and Counseling field should be towards the betterment of the person being referred; this includes being referred by the Counselor to other counselors who are better able, along with providing information to the person or entity doing the referring to aid them.
> I argued the note that it could also be ethical because the counselor refused because he knew he was not specialized in it, before heading off into the first 2 bullet points above, because the context was lacking. (and it was--my prof said that she didn't mind if we wrote ethical or unethical, but
how we defended it. All those essay questions were conveniently general because of how they can necessarily apply in a realistic setting.)
I've scrapped part of the post due to time concerns (had this typed out as soon as the thread was launched + 20 or so replies) but PPE!
I'm dropping two of my courses today as it is the last day I can without an F. In the morning I'll be dicussing with my Prof for a couple hours what I can do later to make up for it, as well as looking into Financial Aid and the Dorms.
Currently, you're in a period of distress--please also talk to the professors heading the courses you dropped, if able, and then tell your situation to them so that they're informed of what's happening and why you dropped.
I'll do an inventory of the stuff I own and what I might be willing to sell for some extra money, as well as further options for later down the road. ...I debated the pros and cons of swerving in front of a logging truck recently... and it didn't scare me until now. I can't stay at home, but I won't quit school either if I can help it.
Nextly, I'm
under the assumption that this distress turned into numbness or something parallel to it considering this. Distress as in 'the holistic situation creating panic and pressure, as well as stress and an abstract barrier to feeling healthy due to external influences'. Things like these events happen when your mental focus (ie What you think about, generally) is oriented towards something particularly averse or negative; balance it out with a good goal, and what is significant to you, either in willpower or what you consider significant to live for--while the idealization or rumination of 'ending it now ._.' would "seem" OK, it will not be. There will also be periodic instances wherein this 'feels' ok without prior thought--remind yourself and be aware of what position you're in, and reorient yourself. Do not quit school;
go to those who can physically help you like your school guidance counselor or your current counselor. Be mindful of those who care about you not because of your lacking existence causing them hurt--but because of why you matter to them and why people look up to, and consider you important. Reorient your thinking into the positive to balance out and cancel any intrusive thoughts coming your way.
You can get through this, Cado. You will never be alone here. Bringing these concerns up with your Dad/Stepmom and/or current counselor or any person available who you can go for aid, will help you a lot due to mutuality.
This is something I had to learn after many nights being awake with tears down my face at times ._.
Other people can, and will help, no matter how hard the situation seems to be, or how terrible one's current environment may be. You just always have to keep moving forward and to not focus on the problems insomuch that it's the only thing you can see, both in thought and sight. Focus on those problems if and only if your thoughts are ready to face them, but at the meantime branch out.
I also as an aside wish your Mother knew the impact of what her uneducated prejudice is doing.
I hope she will also learn from this in a mutually beneficial way in the future.
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