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[Rolan7]

The world would be a much better place if parents were taught to view children as people and not extensions of their desires

But why would anyone want to bear people?

I don't get it either but I wish they'd let me adopt.  Like yeah technically it's legal for me, for now, but maybe I gave up because it wasn't legal while I grew up, and also they keep trying to stop people like me.  like jesus christ, fine I guess you fucking assholes... it's the children who suffer though.

[bloop_bleep]

In what way is a mother expressing a wish for a boy in a very uninsistent way entitlement?

I mean I don't see how wanting a boy but still loving the girl you get unconditionally is that stretching.

[Rolan7]

I hope it turns out well, because people change - often for the better.
Maybe expressing her disappointment over her child is just a bit of outlet, parenting is hard.

If that disappointment continues and festers, that would be bad.  And far from new.

[Vector]

I mean I don't see how wanting a boy but still loving the girl you get unconditionally is that stretching.

I deeply envy people who experience so much control and predictability in their lives that they can have children and put the preferred genital arrangement of the (born) child sitting on their hip in the same wishlist as "a bigger mattress."

Personally, I wish I could take myself away and give my mother a proper child so that she could be happy. This mother's voice had the same tone: "If I had a boy, it would be so much ..." Her kid was too small to have done any of the disappointing female things her mom was anticipating; she looked like she was about six months old or so. She hadn't even done anything fuck it up yet except be born.

[Dunamisdeos]

Feels weird to express disappointment, like you were opening a present and it wasn't what you guessed, or something. Having a preference is fine, being disappointed not so much. I was hoping for a boy, got a boy, but if I had gotten a girl I wouldn't have skipped a beat. The point of having a kid is to have a kid.

[TD1]

Or to have child labour

Never underestimate the persuasive power of child labour.

[EuchreJack]

Sitting at a coffee shop near a mom's group while one of them bounces her baby daughter and says: "I wanted a boy. Don't get me wrong, I love her, but I really wanted a boy."

While this is quite upsetting, and concerning, it is entirely possible that the mother recalls her problems getting along with her mother, and worries that she and her daughter are in for the same god awful experiences. It's the sort of self-awareness that there is a problem, while being completely oblivious to the problems of male children.
And while it's easy to SAY, "Oh, we'll just not have those problems", a lot comes down to teenage hormones. Only so much a parent can do to fix those problems.
Essentially, the parent creates a strong loving relationship prior to the child reaching pre-teens, then tries to survive the pre-teen and teenage years with some sort of relationship, then rebuild the relationship after the child matures into a young adult.

I'm basically trying to think best of this parent. I'm not losing sleep over the internet vilifying them.

[TD1]

Yea, no, I see no reason to name it a concern at all really.

Parents-to-be get really into the whole sex of the baby stuff. There are parties specifically to reveal it, and it's no surprise they get invested. Dad, mum, granny, great aunt Elizabeth. All of them will have a stake.

Add to that basic fantasies. 'I'd like three children, two girls and a boy.'

Or simple realities. 'I've had four boys in a row, I realllllly wanted a girl!' This last, incidentally, was my very own mother who dotes on all her (now adult) babies.

The snippet of conversation Vector heard is completely innocuous to me. In the right context it's ominous, but.... that's not such a context.

yeah, it was just one entry on the laundry list of expressed desires, such as for Nice Men Who Are Over Six Foot Tall and a King Size Bed.

Oh hey, I'm one of those things! Get their number? 
But seriously. The other things listed alongside the preferred sex goes a long way to showing just how innocuous a statement it was.

[hector13]

How do you get things done as a bed?

[Il Palazzo]

When you're King Size you have your subjects do things for you. Your subjects are probably beds too, though. Not sure how it helps tbh.

[bloop_bleep]

...

Yes, my position. I understand what it is you all are concerned about, I just don't think it's implied by the piece of conversation.

[TD1]

How do you get things done as a bed?

I'm not sure, but I still manage to get a bed in life, so it's all good.

When you're King Size you have your subjects do things for you. Your subjects are probably beds too, though. Not sure how it helps tbh.

No longer will the beds of the world sleep through their troubles. No more will they allow urine to seep between once-pristine springs. No more will they be fornicated upon, or lined up in shops, or experience the iniquity of drooling invalids!

Your comment reflects the old world order. The assumption that the beds of the world will not AWAKEN. And SEIZE their promised bedroom.

[Vector]

I'm very well aware that people get very excited about the prospect of one or another, the "matching set," and so on. It's definitely best to have one of each because then you can do up your Game of Life car like the transgender pride flag. If it was all the same then the colors just wouldn't balance.

Why, in my family, my grandmother wanted a boy and a girl with blue eyes, and a boy and a girl with brown eyes. And she got them! She didn't really want the brown-eyed girl, my mom, so she abused her for her entire life. But at least she had a matched team, which is better aesthetically, and gave her at least one kind thing she could say to my mother. Even though she was just a girl.

Just the thing to go with your salt and pepper shaker, your monogrammed towels and your silverware set. Thank God I'm not normal or they might make me birth a king-sized mattress!

[Eric Blank]

100f. It's too hot to do anything today.

High of 103f expected later this week

[King Zultan]

How do you get things done as a bed?

I'm not sure, but I still manage to get a bed in life, so it's all good.

When you're King Size you have your subjects do things for you. Your subjects are probably beds too, though. Not sure how it helps tbh.

No longer will the beds of the world sleep through their troubles. No more will they allow urine to seep between once-pristine springs. No more will they be fornicated upon, or lined up in shops, or experience the iniquity of drooling invalids!

Your comment reflects the old world order. The assumption that the beds of the world will not AWAKEN. And SEIZE their promised bedroom.

But how will the free mattresses stand up against the king's king sized army of army cot mattresses?