I I don't feel the need for a soldier in the initial 7, I'll go with these primary roles
Miner
Miner
Carpenter
Mason
Mechanic
Farmer
Stone Crafter
I usually rely on stone mugs for trade during the first year, which is why I have a dedicated stonecrafter. If I think I'll need a soldier straight off, I'll switch stonecrafting to a secondary and add a soldier.
Then, depending on preferences and abilities, I add on these secondaries:
Cook
Brewer
Woodcutter
Doctor
Butcher
Tanner
Glassmaker
Architect
Bookkeeper/Manager
I also have a few other rules. Miners don't get any secondary skills besides possibly doctor. I want them mining full time. Carpenter never gets woodcutter, since I want to be able to have wood coming in while he works. I try to avoid a farmer/cook/brewer combination, since that leads to one dwarf being a bottleneck for the entire food/drink production line. I'll usually assign architect to a couple of dwarves, so it doesn't end up being as much of a bottleneck.
Primary skills get 5 skill points, secondaries get 1-3, depending on how many secondary skills the dwarf has, and how important the skill is. Brewing only gets 1 point, since booze has no quality, for instance. But cooking will get as many as possible, since quality roasts make happy dwarves and are good to trade.
As far as stuff goes, I sell back all the ropes, threads, cloth, wheelbarrows, ladders, bags, etc, since they are easy enough to make. I switch drinks around so I have 15 of each, instead of 40, 20, 0, 0. Might as well start with as much variety as possible. I admit to doing the meat exploit, selling back the starting meat and fish and then buying 1 unit of each of 30 different 2gp meats to get the free barrels.
For animals, I usually start with some dogs, pigs and turkeys. Dogs for early warnings, pigs because they product meat well and can be milked, and turkeys for the abundant eggs. Usually 2 males and 2-5 females each. Two males to reduce the chance of getting none who will breed. Also one male cat to reduce the chance of a catsplosion, while still protecting the supplies. I'll usually buy sheep or llamas from caravans to get wool production going later on.