As an aside--HI New Guy! Long time no see!
Tiruin, that's a little... messy, and very hard to parse. could you clean it up a bit? I'm not sure I can follow.
Hahah~
Yeah.
Sorry in advance. Given all the info at my hands here, I usually trip over them at times to give a concise idea.
It's like using a shotgun to hit a target at 50m with all the pellets on-mark (which can be done but...I'm doing it again! x_x).
Alrighty!
My point back there was that a person's beliefs also play a large role in how they interact. Pulling in the analogy of Newton's laws in Psychology--if there is action, there is generally a reaction. So what I was talking about is self-assessment; if you can ask yourself 'what do I think about [the thing that makes me cuss or get angry]', that's a nice first step in checking why you do so.
And PPE:
I'll be poking at the analogy of the tree here--roots and development and all. In one main idea, attitude (how we act currently) is based on:
> What we know
> What we've learned
> Memories
> Experiences
> Influences
Jo: I have weights at home, but my other exercise options are a bit limited due to injuries, I'm hoping to get a membership at a local gym or the Y so I can swim without risking aggravating my knees.
Detoxicated: I listen to a very diverse assortment of music, from heavy metal to jazz and classical (But I don't do hip-hop or rap.) I'm not sure what you mean by 'take my personality out of situations', could you please elaborate?
New Guy: This is one of my major problems I think, I have a great deal of difficulty getting into people's heads, I'm very, very, bad at interpersonal communication. For most of my earlier adult life and teenage years my first and typically only response to an argument was to end it with physical force (yes, I know exactly how bad that is, on every level.)
Outlined in orange is one primary thing of note here. My messy words encompass the idea but they're messy, so I'll polish them up here.
> You can easily learn something new, when you begin believing that what you've known is
not everything.
SO what that means is that you can branch out on
how you interact or respond.
Maybe that's why "you're an ass": because your responses connect with something mainly negative (that's why its being described as an ass; YOU as a
person are not an asshole--your attitude may be the culprit instead).
*Just note this: People usually throw these adjectives at each other because of how
close attitude and a person seem to be--that at times, they seem unseparable--because this describes
interaction.
*Noted: I'll pull theoretical knowledge in application here. One method of how we begin to 'know' our environment (which means other people and other things) is by observation. However, knowing is not necessarily understanding. In your context, I believe, when people describe you--they're not describing your limits or your
everything, but just how you show yourself. Your attitude.
So if you can branch out with that attitude--modify or replace how you sometimes interact
when you know you're going to be an asshole, then that'll work out the best for you.
Like for example, instead of responding in a very toxic and crude way--you can respond in a nice and diplomatic yet
firm way.
Understanding that communication is a myriad tool, with not just one way of usage is one boon in life to know. :3
Instead of swearing, you can make something
comical from it, for example. (like saying something mundane instead of something
A funny example is from a friend of mind. Instead of saying SHIIIIIT or BITCH. She says SHIII-ba inu. That's a nice dog. Yeah.). Quickly disassociating the idea by replacing it with a more subtle one.
Doesn't make sense why it'd be there in the first place, but at least it doesn't make it
that bad, as a start.
Also if I could poke--why many people suggest martial arts is
not just because you get to hit things, but because when one is introduced to something, they're implied to begin learning it as a whole. So the teachings and values of the our lands and many other lands
within those arts are also learned (ie Why we use it for self-defense and not for attacking people, despite the idea being a 'form of hurting others' in its crudest mention).
A lot of my difficulty does stem from an inability to just put things aside, once I 'step up' and decide to get involved, I don't really know how to get out of it when it goes bad.
Ask thyself: Why :O
An open-ended why.
Then begin creating logical answers on why you think this is reasonable. They can either be the
real answer why you're such, or steps leading to the truth on why this is so.
I think its a good thing--dedication and perseverance; but there's a need to develop critical thinking (in facing 'worst case scenarios' of bad). Sometimes, without knowing the context, you don't need to 'get out of it'. You could handle it, instead.
Glad I could help. Another example why the internet is great. Random people being nice to one another, helping each other on their way.
Love how it is used to span distance for people to communicate. c:
Makes me sad a bit when people use the 'internet' to...just be immature at times, because of how vast it is, but
. It's one way of seeing the internet.
Totally as an aside here
In my experience I've faced a lot of statements trying to expound on human nature (ie It is human nature to hate), so I'd poke on its clarification: its not -really- human nature to hate and fear or get angry straight out--it
is human nature to be open enough to feel hate and fear, but it is also human nature to prompt action in order to coordinate or work with these feelings; Communication is one vital asset in handling such things. It's human nature to communicate--and thus interact.