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ancistrus

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Sick relatives
« on: June 16, 2015, 12:39:37 pm »
So today I learned my grandma is going to an operation tomorrow, because of cancer. I live in a different country and I didn't know she was sick. I want to give her a call, but I don't exactly know what to say, and more important: calling in a time such as this carries a certain implication; "Hey I wanted to say hi because you may not live for much longer", which I think makes a patient even more scared and sad than they already are. I would like that conversation to be a bit more cheerful and optimistic.
I probably won't get many replies in time, but this situation is going to come up again, and I would like to know how other people deal with it.
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3man75

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Re: Sick relatives
« Reply #1 on: June 16, 2015, 12:51:54 pm »
ALWAYS CALL! I made the mistake of that once for the exact same reason and hesitated to call my grandma during her last hospital trip, which she did not make it out of. Now I can't say anything to her and she's gone.

Try something like "Hi Grandma, I heard you were sick and I wanted to call you to say that I love you.".

Is it corny? Yes, but it means alot to people when you say things straight in a serious situation like this. She needs to know people care about her or she may very well have less of a chance to survive cancer.

Best of luck.
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« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2015, 05:11:06 pm »
Definitely call. Say hello, say you hope she'll be allright and that you love her. Sometimes, positive reinforcement from relatives can make all the difference.
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ancistrus

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Re: Sick relatives
« Reply #3 on: June 16, 2015, 05:46:47 pm »
I should say that calling is not in question, the topic of conversation is.
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« Reply #4 on: June 16, 2015, 05:53:41 pm »
Talk about how things are going or something funny that you saw recently. Maybe get her to tell you a story. My parents love telling stories from cuba  :D
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Re: Sick relatives
« Reply #5 on: June 16, 2015, 10:34:27 pm »
Call to check in, see how she is feeling. Let hear hear your voice and let her hear yours.

It may feel awkward as hell, but you will not bother your grandmother in the slightest for doing so. She'd probably be happy to know that you called and that you were thinking about her. Just keep it positive and keep it light. Say that you love her, wish her good luck, and if you are religious, tell her you'll say a prayer or two for her. Basically... Just be there for her. That is in itself, enough.
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Re: Sick relatives
« Reply #6 on: July 18, 2015, 04:24:44 am »
Quote from: ancistrus on June 16, 2015, 05:46:47 pm
I should say that calling is not in question, the topic of conversation is.

Yer gosh dang right it's not a question.

Here, easy mode, "Hey grandma this is RL_USER_NAME, what's up?"

From there it'll be smooth sailing, trust me. No topic required.
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