That's odd. Usually both male and female characters would have the same backstory (previous Bethesda), or let you choose a backstory (DA:O). Even in Fable III you were either a prince or a princess, the only change was your girlfriend or boyfriend at the start of the game.
not so much in fallout 4. If you explore the pre-war house and examine all the objects and stuff, it gives both the male and female their own background sort of. You can still decide the future of the character, just not the past part of it, unless you ignore the pre-war stuff.
And yeah I can see how you'd be forced to use a gun and stuff, but it still felt more jarring as the female who presumably never used a gun (guess you could make it where she went to the gun range or something), where as the male almost for sure did.
But if you ignore the settlement part (which seems to be a big feature of the game), the pacing is still a bit weird overall, which probably makes the female not as fun to play (at least for me). The pacing even when skipping the settlement stuff, doesn't seem quite right. It was good in the pre-war, good in the vault...but get outside and suddenly a whole bunch of stuff is thrown at you. Heck, it only took 15 minutes of leaving the vault to meet and join a faction, about 3-4 minutes to get power armor (but can't use it very much, so its not OP, the power cells are very rare it seems) and it all seems not like how fallout 3/nv and even skyrim was paced at. Which goes back to the male's backstory kinda makes it better in that he'd probably already have some experience in a survival setting. And I don't even rush through games, it takes me ages to even finish the main quest or do anything in most open world games lol. But fallout 4 pacing seems...vastly different than anything else by bethesda. And its like an entirely different game to me almost, so much is different.
I do love fallout 4 a lot, it just doesn't seem like a bethesda game at all. Its so different than fallout 3 and NV (which wasn't bethesda) or even skyrim. And the pacing is...not quite right. its like the game could have been from a different company to me lol.