@vjek - Ha, I now have a fantastic mental picture of a jaguar woman dancer! It makes a kind of sense; they are graceful creatures, after all.
My new fort is mostly natural growth - it's a dying civ (though maybe not as close to death as I thought) and has a population cap of 25 and a strict cap of 50. I've also turned off invaders and genned a pocket world without some of the more Fun things - werebeasts, vampires, and necromancers. I was looking to focus on dorf micromanagement and neat projects I haven't tried yet, like minecart swimming trainers. I'm attempting maximum need fulfillment, and aiming for a population where everyone is ecstatic; it's a Sims-y kind of play style much different from "oh crap I need to prepare for the siege that will be here any second now."
So far, I haven't lost a single dwarf and I'm in year 5. I've lost some animals, most mysteriously. I think some died of old age. I'm dealing with a catsplosion - and a dogsplosion and a, um, llamasplosion - lots of work for my gelder, butcher, tanners, milkers, shearers, spinners, cheesemakers...
Everyone is at least Fine - except for this ONE STUPID DWARF who has been Unhappy for a long time no matter what I do. Her thoughts and preferences screen says "She is in a constant state of internal rage." OK, lady, I feel ya, I've been there since November 2016 myself... but in her case it's because of a freakin' snow storm.
One of her perpetual unhappy thoughts is that she's lonely because she's away from family - so I've been trying to give her one. Unfortunately, there's only one other dwarf who is age, gender, and orientation compatible, and he "never falls in love or develops positive feelings." Not encouraging, but I'm trying the "pre-honeymoon suite" trick with them, several other dwarf couples, and a small group of dwarves who are all compatible with at least one or two of the others in the group. (The group is all bunking in my baroness's swanky place, because she's one of them.)
I got one pair of lovers out of the group room, and I convinced an existing pair of lovers to marry. But Ms. Internal Rage is even worse than before. She never even became a "passing acquaintance" of her one possible partner while they were idling in a room together. I had everyone spar and then socialize in the tavern for a while, and they finally got to "passing acquaintance" somewhere in there - but the angry dwarf is up to 24k stress according to Dwarf Therapist. Gah.
Her other perpetual complaint is a lack of decent meals. Her only food preferences are jumping spider (wtf) and potato wine. I lucked into getting a caged tame jumping spider from the elf caravan, but it just sits in her room. I've heard of dwarves snacking on vermin from cages, but I've never actually seen it happen. I'm not sure they even do that in the current version; I never even saw it when I started playing in around 2009.
You would think getting potatoes would be easy, but noooo. Most of my embark is a cold grassland; it has lots of other plants, including things like carrots, turnips, and radishes, but no Armok-damned potatoes as far as I can tell for some reason. The caravans haven't brought any either.
I don't want to just expel her from the fort or anything either, because she's a highly skilled metalcrafter.
Also, her name is Kadol Ivorytower. The game just randomly generated that.