I can kill a 40th level wizard with a first level kobold with base book stats.
Sure all you need is the DM on your side in order to give you the opportunity to pull off this stunt all the while ensuring that the level 40 wizard didn't cast any of the many spells he could have in order to ensure his safety.
But tell me... How is the Kobold going to disable the magic traps defending the wizard?
How is the Kobold going to convince the enemies surrounding the wizard to let him pass?
How is he going to win the card game against the gnome who has the key to the wizards tower?
full optimized
Optimized can mean just making sure your character is functional and has a sphere of expertise
But what I think you mean is that you don't let people with broken builds. Yet I still believe that even though you will never admit it or realise, you do influence having optimized builds in your game inadvertently either by giving people with optimized skills more opportunities to play or roleplay.
Let's all retain our chill composure. 3e doesn't require optimization until you realize your character can't actually survive against threats at his level.
There are other things I can do in combat but most of them will just bog the fight down and are probably inferior to just swinging my axe. There's a difference between munchkin optimization and not doing things that are worse than doing nothing. It seems like you hate optimization so much you have a problem with people doing what they should be doing which doesn't make much sense. Maybe a different RPG would be more your speed than D&D cuase make no mistake, from the beginning D&D has been combat-centric and a degree of optimization is expected. Even 3e. especially 3e. Past the first few levels most monsters will turn you to paste if you don't have the tools to beat them.
Ohh it really does and most people who disagree are optimized.
Sure, no one likes the power gamers who build stats with just completely blank characters who might as well be robots for all they contribute roleplaying wise.
Yet that doesn't excuse the fact that, yeah... You really can't expect the DM to go easy on you just because you decided that as a fighter you would pick all your favorite feats instead of a good build. You can't expect a DM to even let you speak if you don't got the skills.
As I said when everyone is Xena and your a unfunny Joxter... don't be surprised when you don't get to step up to the plate as much.
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As for Wizards there are very few ways they can be "unoptimized" and that would be actively ensuring they have no combat spells or that they cannot cast their spells because of low attributes. So don't even mention them...
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But if you SO believe I am wrong then
In the next game you play... Pick a Commoner and write the most epic story about him possible. Give him a fully fleshed out hero archtype and roleplay him as a hero.
Then tell me how much a hero he really is.
And if he comes off as the big damn hero.. I will admit I was wrong and say that with a good DM stats don't matter and that all my previous experiences are because of a bad string of both my own false expectations and bad DMs.
And just so you don't do the obvious midmax stuff. All Charisma skills must have 0 ranks. Which sure call it me moving goalposts but I seriously don't want to hear "Yeah I proved you wrong, I just had to max out one of these skills until I made all the enemies retreat" when my point was that you need to come off as a hero with none of the excessive power I say is required to be one. Giving yourself the excessive power anyway but in a different way is against the spirit of my dare.