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Author Topic: Gender stuff - Let's try this again  (Read 16392 times)

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Re: Gender stuff - Let's try this again
« Reply #165 on: March 10, 2015, 10:04:27 pm »

No worries. Big topic, lots of people with extremely different experiences from which to draw conclusions, lots of emotion, a fair amount of historical baggage from previous, similar threads...and some peculiar quoting rules in this specific thread which we're not all even sure how closely to follow.

Thread is a recipe for miscommunication. We're doing well.

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« Reply #166 on: March 10, 2015, 10:36:57 pm »

You know what, fuck you guys. And gals. And whoever does not feel included by the previous two sentences.

Some people (you know who you are) apparently got what the rules in the OP were meant to achieve. Some people (you know who you are) apparently lack either the necessary intellect or the nessary attention span for remembering the very simple rule of:


No quoting other forumites. Period.

I stopped reading on page seven, because I'm kinda drunk right now and there's actually a fair bit of interesting discussion in there, so apologies to anyone who tried to, y'know, smother the flames. I don't get home for a couple of hours, and this thing explodes so badly? I'd've thought it would go better. Bay12, I am disappoint.


Locking this again for about 24 hours or so, I guess. Let's see how it goes next time.
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« Reply #167 on: March 15, 2015, 05:48:39 pm »

Huh, it seems things got better right at the point where I stopped reading... I guess you should take the first sentence of that last post to be a reaction to what happened up to page seven.


So with more optimism than before: Round three - ding!
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Re: Gender stuff - Let's try this again
« Reply #168 on: March 15, 2015, 07:27:10 pm »

I'm curious - how far do ya'll think gender comes into personality? How far is what we observe societal, and how much nature? That's been niggling me for a while.

Edit: wait... Is this post against the rules? I only now read Helgo's infamous butt print analogy.
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« Reply #169 on: March 15, 2015, 07:40:49 pm »

I think it does a lot. I emphasize it that way because reality includes all the social feedback and expectations and role models and so on. It's not as simple as saying "This slice of a personality is due to sex, this one's due to social influence, etc..." If you want my opinion of how much is purely biological, I'd say quite a lot, because biology is a complicated beast and most humans seem to have strong biological urges toward social interaction, which means the "social" stuff isn't as separable from it as people like to think. If you want my opinion of how much is purely genetic, I'm not sure, but I suppose very little of it based on my (limited) understanding of development in general, and similar problems do arise as in the general biology case.

If you want my opinion of how much of it ought to be based on gender, I'd say much less, at least on a social level, but that's personal preference and nothing more. But people are extraordinarily complicated, personalities are extremely fuzzy notions, and I think the nature vs nurture paradigm is played up for more than it's worth. For example, how much is nature and how much is nurture can vary from person to person! Certainly, whether a given behavior falls under one classification or the other, it shouldn't really have any impact on how you treat individual people you meet.

So, I guess I'd say, gender comes into personality a lot, and there's a lot of nature and a lot of nurture, and that there are surprisingly few situations when it actually matters what answers anybody has to those questions. I'm not one to discourage learning for the sake of learning, of course, I'm just aiming to bring some perspective.

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« Reply #170 on: March 16, 2015, 11:58:01 am »

PTW

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Re: Gender stuff - Let's try this again
« Reply #171 on: March 16, 2015, 01:45:30 pm »

In response to the question "how far do ya'll think gender comes in to personality?" (If that counts as quoting another forumite I frankly don't give a damn my dear Helgoland) I say that it is a significant contributing fact, but not the end-all-be-all. I've read a myriad of reports, and they all appear to indicate that, from a psychological standpoint, women are generally more gentle, emotional, and neurotic then men. However, in my personal experience I have found men to be the more loyal and the better friends. Of course, this is all skewed by the fact that i'm 18 and male.
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Re: Gender stuff - Let's try this again
« Reply #172 on: March 16, 2015, 02:47:55 pm »

Mentioning what question you are responding to is in fact highly encouraged, since it allows your post to be read more independently from the thread as a whole.
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« Reply #173 on: March 16, 2015, 08:15:40 pm »

Err, Helgo...you could please edit the rules in the OP. They are, honestly, not that clear, unlike the forum guidelines with the reasoning behind it being present. :-\
That could help a LOT on how to understand what to post, in the least.
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« Reply #174 on: March 17, 2015, 03:53:15 am »

Spoiler: "Discussion stuff" (click to show/hide)
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« Reply #175 on: March 17, 2015, 03:57:50 am »

Gender roles, in my opinion, are social constructs--and are thus far subject to any stigma the localized society in question, perceives them as. (which...primarily speaks about pretty much every 'wrong' problem in society--localized social stigma, or the prevalence of an ideology, continued in culture and belief).

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I don't know, is this an interesting topic to discuss regarding gender?
It is.

...But I can't quote you, or continue speaking on that topic you bring up...for reasons I cannot exactly understand. ._.
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« Reply #176 on: March 17, 2015, 05:22:10 am »

It says 'no outright discussion' in the OP. I really don't know why people keep forgetting that middle word.
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« Reply #177 on: March 17, 2015, 05:47:15 am »

Very well, I'll spoiler my previous post for those who would still like to read it. I'll also be retiring from the thread.
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« Reply #178 on: March 17, 2015, 06:34:16 am »

Tiruin, of course you can elaborate on the topic. You just cannot use a style of answering that is personally directed at Jelle instead of generally everyone.

I think what Helgoland is trying to get you guys to not do is more about who you are talking to and not where you get your ideas from, that is, you aren't allowed to direct criticism at anyone, thus the "no quoting" rule, as then anything you write is implicitly directed at the one you are quoting.
If that makes any sense.
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« Reply #179 on: March 17, 2015, 09:15:04 am »

It says 'no outright discussion' in the OP. I really don't know why people keep forgetting that middle word.

I'm somewhat confused by this honestly. I really, REALLY don't want to beat a dead horse here (which I think I might be doing anyhow), but it just seems superfluous. Can you at least define outright discussion in a more detailed manner in the OP? I mean, what the rules SEEM to want to do is make the thread a collection of loosely related, but not directly correlating, posts on peoples opinions on gender. Which... is fine? but what would anyone be gaining out of it? Is that your intention?

Of course, I get we're desperately trying to avoid derailment and flame wars, but it seems to me that you are alienating... a fair amount of forum goers from this thread. After all this forum is formatted as a DISCUSSION board. Again, I don't want to seem overly critical here... just... my two cents.



Now, to contribute something to gender discussion, based on what Tiruin said, I would like to state that I too believe Gender Roles to be mostly a social construct, although they evolve in many other species, and change over time. In modern times however, gender roles are a bit of a bit burden on the average western person (not to discount the rest of the world, but given that many places in Africa/Middle East/Asia are even more steeped in annoyingly antiquated and superfluous tradition than the US, which itself is still quite steeped in tradition depending on where you live, i'm not sure how to even go about instituting change or talking about social/gender problems there). Of course, people have a right to live however they want to, but I believe in gender equality and that both genders should possess EQUALITY OF OPPORTUNITY.
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