Except that most peoples responses to things are 'it's inevitable' or 'that's terrible' or 'its terrifying', plus there are lots of bugs right now with adventure mode, so, it's just kind of hard to gauge what's actually going on and lots of other stuff.
To fix it, mostly, you must just spend some time in-game. Just leave your character with something what is presing your macro made from dots running. For hour or two.
My World looks pretty live after this. But i spend there a year and half as adventurers (i was creating adventure peasant, making some small stuff like beating (not killing goblins) and retiring them).
It's all really topped off by the fact that once you do find something to do, you slay the great beast or rescue the captured children or something, you'll never be thanked or rewarded for it. I mean, sure in the previous version the only thing status really brought you was more followers, quests from nobles and occasional changes in dialogue but it was still something and something is quite nice.
If I read "It was inevitable" after spreading word of a great feat one more time I'm going to scream until my house catches fire.
After i rescued two childrens not only parents, but other friends of them was happy and thanksfully. When i slayed Tiger Recruit who killed two or three people from helmet, only bandid from the same camp spited at me (Q->People->Filter for name).
Stop enjoing just slaughering everything, don't be mad person possesed by some kind of deamons. Export data about your village, find smallest one. Generate world without knowing whole legends. Join to smallest village, start talking. Read what they are speaking, who is well traveled, who is just fast generated junk...
Bring some lethers, meats, sell them. Look how persons are GLAD, because you did someting fine. Get some soldiers with you, some guides (two-three are good number) find this chilling horror, make manhunt... Prepare everybody, give them weapons, order to stay in correct positions...
Why should we? Maybe it's fun for you to play like that, but why should everyone? And besides, everyone is telling me that the bandits are causing them HARDSHIP, not thieves, bandits, that means they aren't just stealing things, they probably killed a few people too. I will go to their camp and slay them in the name of Armok.
Unfortunately, in this current version this will cause the people who sent me to deal with the bandits to hate me, because emotions are not working correctly right now. I really hope in this upcoming patch with new emotions this issue will be fixed. Hopefully it will fix vampires not attacking anything when they are revealed and other stuff like goblin raiders, terrorizing people on the streets being neutral to you(same for bandits).
Edit: Also, I don't know if I'm just lucky, but I never had trouble finding someone who knows directions to lairs/whatever. Try looking in the local mead hall, lord/lady usually tell you where the site is located, or tell you about someone who can. You can then ask him/her directions to that man(usually he/she is somewhere in that same mead hall, in my experience).
Hardship is not slaughtering everybody on sign. In most cases these bandids have just a lot of robbing thingies and some fights in Their logs, but not too much killing. Some peasant who is killing 20 humans, who just stole courple things, ever when They was stealing for long time, is just dangerous freak, murder and he's scaring people.
Goblin raiders are killing people belongs to site which They're atacking (they have lethal status). If you will slaugher them, but spare these ones who will surrender, poeple will love you.
Goblin bandits are stealing from villages. They are syrrounding persons, even you... Greeting them to start conversation, when They are not close to you, Their group leader (there can be courple groups) will be commenting on surroundings and weather. When They are close to you, They are demanding to yield. If you agree, They will demand to to drop some items, like weapons, backpack, pouches and bags. Then they will push droped items (sadly, as far as i know, you can push and haul items like NPCs) towards them, They will empty them on floor and take what They want. If you will refuse, it depends from They heatness, happiness level and fame. For example, one time i was just grabed by goblin leader and he sayid he defeated many fearsome oponents, but other time i just got hallabard (stoled from my adventurer) swing into neck...
Vampires are broken, because hate is growing slowly in them. Why they should start atacking you? Okey, i am vampire, i killd them, so... what now? Okey, i will threaten you, but if you are brave enough to say that, you propobly skilled vampire hunter, who will want kill me. It will be far better, if i manage to just run, but you are standing in only entrance. I will wait, prepared for fight for your step in this case, because i have no other choice. If you will wound me into leg, escape will be more difficult. I changed my personality many times, this time it will work some time too.
Vampires usualy are not glad, because They was cursed, but some of them are. Just talk to them to check. I just wanted to say, if you want from people more sense, act more like real being not some possesed daemon. It's all.