The thing I'm reacting to is that, unless I've misinterpreted something, he seems to be advocating a return to those standards, which is a suggestion I'm opposed to.
Well, that's fine. These are the standards I live by. You could call it my lifestyle choice. I believe these social norms create well-adjusted, well-fathered young men who are less likely to commit the crimes that require policing. I believe these norms broke down in the African-American community and repairing those norms is crucial to ending the violence. Don Lemon said it as much.
"And number one, and probably the most important, just because you can have a baby, it doesn't mean you should. Especially without planning for one or getting married first. More than 72 percent of children in the African-American community are born out of wedlock. That means absent fathers. And the studies show that lack of a male role model is an express train right to prison and the cycle continues. So, please, black folks, as I said if this doesn't apply to you, I'm not talking to you. Pay attention to and think about what has been presented in recent history as acceptable behavior. Pay close attention to the hip-hop and rap culture that many of you embrace. A culture that glorifies everything I just mentioned, thug and reprehensible behavior, a culture that is making a lot of people rich, just not you. And it's not going to."
http://transcripts.cnn.com/TRANSCRIPTS/1307/27/cnr.06.htmlAnd this he said in the context of Trayvon Martin.
I've no interest in forcing my lifestyle on anyone because I believe individual choices based on a public dialogue guides society far better than a gathering of experts pushing a pet social policy on a pet minority. There has been a push by experts and the push-back is mis-characterized, ostracized and silenced by those experts gathering a moral outrage brigade. That is not a public dialogue. And I really have no interest in accumulating a moral outrage brigade on a forum to shut down opinions I do not like.
And that does not suggest a single one of your mis-characterizations is accurate. Where did you even get "no homo" is beyond me, beyond the presumption a reproductive coupling is male and female. Even granting that isn't true, I don't consider that an unreasonable presumption when discussing demographically-significant averages, or is it reasonable, or even in good-faith, to assume someone is homophobic for failing to mince words to the specifics of your satisfaction.
This may be the reason the argument goes nowhere useful.