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[3man75]

I love my mom and dad. I've always said that and believed it

They separated when I was in elementary and recently (as in starting a year ago) I haven't been calling my dad a lot.

It use to be every week or every other day but it's been like 15 days since our last talk together. I remember calling him yesterday but he didn't pick up. Today I called back after a missed call from him and he was..disappointed in me and my bro.

He was crippled sometime I was in elementary and has continued to grow older and have more and more operations. He just had another not too long ago it seems and I didn't know, something he pointed out quite a bit. As a son I feel like I just failed the parent I most loved. I can't help but not care also because I always know he's on pain. I just don't want to stop and call to say "hey dad how's it going?" Knowing it's bad and just sitting around the phone with no topic.

I have feelings of not caring (who I feel are winning) and feelings that this could haunt my conscious all the way to my grave. Is it even possible to make amends with him? Am I just a bad person who just doesn't care?

I don't know what to do but I just feel like I should be doing something. This all sucks and I suck...I think?

[freeformschooler]

How far are you from him? I'm sure he would appreciate talking to you on the phone, but paying a visit IRL is always better. Maybe he'd like to watch TV with you, and maybe you could bake him some treats.

[Mindmaker]

It's never to late to make amends.

I used to have a really bad relationship with my father. I'm only using the past tense because I'm currently living by myself and we basically tiptoe around each other whenever I pay a visit at home. Not too long ago I was convinced that I would stop talking to him once I could sustain myself.
Then stuff happened and I realized that my family is actually a lot more important to me than I had always though. At some point I'd like to understand my father and have him understand me.
Until then we'll probably continue to hurt and cause each other trouble.

Your circumstances are special and you've probably have a lot of other things on your mind to constantly think about him. But considering that you do think about these sort of things proves that you care about him.
Just keep trying, keep regular contact and try to meet him in person and your relationship will probably become less awkward in time.

[3man75]

Free i'm not far at all it's just that his house has most of the windows covered up and it's gloomy. I know some will read that and say "fuck? man up bro it can't be that bad." but again it's gloomy tiring to hold a conversation with him.

Anyway i just found out he has skin cancer which is thankfully treatable {although i will be telling him to quit smoking for obvious reasons.) and i'm going to his house tomorrow. Since i can't cook i'll be bringing in some cookies for him so we can enjoy them over with some milk. Hopefully that'll make him feel better.

Bay12's i have to say thank you, i was feeling VERY low not too long ago and i still am but now i at least have a direction to walk towards.

God bless you (or if your not into that may the Government you live under decide to give you a tax break.  )

(I'm Also locking this thread)