In some places, post-modernism refuses to die. One cannot meaningfully analyze anything outside of literal critique, when ideology trumps facts and evidence. Once again, 'culture' is an aggregate term; it is the sum total of freely-chosen outlooks and actions, made by rational, individual agents.
Post-modernism is not feminism. Some parts of feminism might be post-modernist, but the whole is not.
Where? Point to them, please. The only place I've seen anyone defending or justifying rape (personal research alert - not to encyclopedic standards), has been the feminist canard that women cannot be rapists, ergo females in positions of authority who use said authority to have sexual relationships with minors are, in fact, not at fault. Thankfully, the law says otherwise.
Recent republican talk on "legitimate" rape, or the idea that marital rape isn't rape somehow are more examples. There is also been some politicians throwing this idea of "forcible rape", i.e. if you don't or can't resist its somehow less bad.
I am not aware of any significant groups of feminists who say women can't rape, but if they exist they are wrong and don't represent the movement as a whole.
Men receive more, and longer, prison terms for the same crimes as women - yes, it's just a HuffPo article, but the research has been done. And yet, for all the sabre-rattling over a negligible wage difference between men and women, this glaring discrepancy is met with the sounds of crickets chirping when presented to Feminist theorists.
The idea that if feminists don't talk (as much) about male issues makes them misandric is like saying the NAACP are racist towards white people.
Grants are available to women, by virtue of nothing more than their genitalia, that aren't availible to men I'm living in Canada, so I've chosen Grants Canada as the exemplar. To the best of my knowledge, this is equally true throughout the West.
This is affirmative action. It is designed help women get a better representation in areas there are few women in. However, there does exist debate among feminists as to whether this is actually helpful or harmful and the issue is not as simple as you make it sound. There is also debate as to how useful it is anymore given conditions for minorities have
generally been improving.
The rest of your post, and most of your other posts, all falsely assume humans are rational.
Humans make lots of their decisions from various heurists, e.g. "gut feelings". Humans
can be rational, but are suprisingly often not.
EDIT: On rereading, some of my replies (including earlier posts) may have been somewhat cold or blunt, I have not had much sleep. For that I apologise.