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[UltraValican]

    Never thought I would make a thread like this...

I recently had my an attempt to start a relationship with a wonderful young woman rejected. She "appreciates my feelings" but "doesn't really see me that way", well people's minds can be changed. And I am madly, madly in love with this woman. The only reason I didn't break down immediately afterwords was because her voice is so energizing and soothing to me. I don't want to give up on my chances of starting a relationship with her. She didn't say no explicitly, so there's still hope, right?

So, I'm asking is it in good taste to try to earn someones affections after the rejected you once? Or should I just give up hope?

[ChairmanPoo]

Give it at least 5 years so that youre both different people

[Pnx]

I think most people go through this sort of situation at least once. You honestly should just let it go. She said no, trust me there's other fish in the sea, I know it can feel like you absolutely have to have this one, but if she doesn't want it, it's really, really, really, a bad idea to try to change her mind. I advise you just to get on with your life.

You'll fall in love with someone else someday.

[kaijyuu]

* kaijyuu echoes what Pnx said.

If you have any chance at all, it's through what ChairmanPoo suggested.

[nenjin]

Let it go. You got a polite refusal, that's really all she should have to say. As much as that sucks.

[itisnotlogical]

If she isn't on board with it, it's not gonna happen and things will only get worse for you the harder you try. She didn't say "no" because a flat "no" hurts people's feelings.

It's hard to believe right now, but you're gonna be fine. I've been rejected by plenty of ladies I thought I was in love with. And you know what? I went on to have all sorts of awesome relationships with other people. I'm not disregarding the way you feel right now, but everything is temporary.

[martinuzz]

"I don't really see you that way"

translated from Womanspeak to English, that means "no, please no, and no".

So sorry kid. It's not regarded as good taste to continue your efforts to court her. It will be percieved as 'creepy', and 'stalking'.
Not only will that get you nowhere with this girl, it will also make you a paria for other girls.
Just don't. Like said before, there's many fish in the ocean.

[UltraValican]

Ah, that feels much better. A certain "fuck off" sounds so much better, than such ambiguous language. Its funny, I haven't shed a single tear over this, I'm beginning to find this fact much more upsetting.  My eyes are dry but my arms and body feel so numb. I guess I should enjoy this slow, dull pain rolling throughout my mind and body, as I battle this demon within myself. I feel like love her so much, but I guess plenty of fools have said that. And I'm no different. I'm just a damn, stupid fool right now.

Thank you, Bay12. I think I get the message.

[Vector]

I feel like love her so much

If you love her... then respect her ability to know herself.  She may be saving you both a lot of pain, too.

I'm sorry, UltraValican.  I've been on both sides of the equation, and they both hurt.  Hugs for you, if wanted.

[DJ]

It doesn't sound like love to me, just infatuation, so the lack of tears is hardly surprising. But I am on verge of tears because I'm failing to smoothly segue into a Haddaway reference.

[LordSlowpoke]

the question you've got to ask yourself here is, what is love?

because infatuation is different from love as stated

compare your feeling to heroin, if it's exactly like heroin it was love i guess but the baby will hurt you no more

so you've got that going for you. loadse donklords you can fall for out there so get back outside and look at people and stuff

[ChairmanPoo]

the question you've got to ask yourself here is, what is love?

[UltraValican]

If you love her... then respect her ability to know herself.  She may be saving you both a lot of pain, too.

I'm sorry, UltraValican.  I've been on both sides of the equation, and they both hurt.  Hugs for you, if wanted.

Oh, I certainly do. And thank you. Upon reflection, I think it all may have all been for the best after all.

the question you've got to ask yourself here is, what is love?

You guys are in cahoots, aren't you?  You had this planned this since the thread's conception right?

[LordSlowpoke]

the question you've got to ask yourself here is, what is love?

GIFSNOP

You guys are in cahoots, aren't you?  You had this planned this since the thread's conception right?

i literally walked into the thread and saw dj's post and thought "yeah we're making it happen"

there used to be only that line and then i edited in more lines so it sounds remotely decent and la-worthy

[BFEL]

I was pretty much gonna just go "NO" to the subject of this thread, because really if you have to ASK then the answer is no, but everyone has kinda already said that already.
And made awesome gifs about it. I lol'd