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Heterosexual

215 (62.7%)

Bisexual/pansexual

66 (19.2%)

Homosexual

16 (4.7%)

Asexual

37 (10.8%)

I'm 12 and what is this?

9 (2.6%)

Total Members Voted: 338

[MorleyDev]

It is worth noting the "You just haven't done it right yet" is the kind of attitude that one finds contributes to practices like corrective rape, so you can see why people'd have a negative reaction to the suggestion.

But really, the key part people seem to be missing is "Sexual Attraction". Heck, an asexual could enjoy sex on a base "stimulate endorphins" level but they don't experience that Sexual Attraction to anyone. They don't look at a person and go "Yes they certainly could stimulate my Mr Happy!" or "Boy, I sure want their pipe inside my vajayjay!" or whatever it is people think/feel through sexual attraction (I wouldn't exactly know).

Now, some also experience discomfort or disgust at the thought of having sex (in the same way many heterosexuals experience discomfort at the thought of having consensual homosexual sex). Others are merely apathetic to the idea (in the same way that many heterosexuals are just apathetic to the idea of having consensual homosexual sex, they don't have any issue with it they just know it's "not for them"). Some can/do have sex, but it doesn't hold that same primal meaning for them (in the same way a heterosexual could potentially have consensual homosexual sex, but it'd be a dispassionate thing and not hold the same meaning heterosexual sex would to them. Emotionally it'd probably be more akin to an act of masturbation that happened to involve another than 'Sex' with a capital S in that regard).

And of course all other possibilities on the great spectrum of humanity.

[Singularity125]

Heh...

I'll be honest, I'm 23 and I still have no clue. Never being in a relationship hasn't really helped either  For a long time I have assumed that I was asexual because it just doesn't come up for me, but I'm starting to wonder now whether I might be gay and just have a REALLY low libido. I'm not sure.

For the purposes of the poll I'm gonna go with "asexual" but this stuff is all confusing

EDIT: And then I derp and click the wrong thing, and I can't take it back apparently. Oh well. XD

[Kaelem Gaen]

Well I'm in the gay camp. 


I'm actually surprised that we have more Asexuals than gay/lesbians in here.


as for the post above me,  that might fall under  Homo-romantic Grey-A or  HR Demisexual depending on when said moments of arousal happen.


Other convo from early in the thread.  I love me some bears.    Which is why I made that bear flag for my sig.

[Helgoland]

I guess it's because we're heavy on the below-25 awkward male segment - there's bound to be some psychological effects there (like the ones I observe in myself...)

[AlleeCat]

That isn't what I said. You can still be asexual and never have had sex, but if you are calling yourself asexual because you didn't have the best first time, maybe you should give it a second shot.

I don't think anyone is asexual because their first time wasn't the best. I think people are asexual because the thought of sex doesn't turn them on whatsoever. My sister is asexual and biromantic, she enjoys physical contact, and romantic acts and gestures, even going so far as to get sexual enjoyment out of them, but she just doesn't find the act of sex itself to be... well, sexy.

[MDFification]

I'm actually surprised that we have more Asexuals than gay/lesbians in here.

Why? This is Dwarf Fortress. We don't have time to get laid, we're too busy micromanaging depressed alcoholic midgets.

[MaximumZero]

That isn't what I said. You can still be asexual and never have had sex, but if you are calling yourself asexual because you didn't have the best first time, maybe you should give it a second shot.

I don't think anyone is asexual because their first time wasn't the best. I think people are asexual because the thought of sex doesn't turn them on whatsoever. My sister is asexual and biromantic, she enjoys physical contact, and romantic acts and gestures, even going so far as to get sexual enjoyment out of them, but she just doesn't find the act of sex itself to be... well, sexy.

My brother is kind of like that, but he's asexual, aromantic, and a-people-in-general. Dude is 27 and still hasn't moved out of our parents' house, though, (partly out of sheer apathy, partly out of hilariously bad poverty, and partly because no one will be around to do chores and stuff [mom and dad both have severe medical issues] if he moves,) so I'm sure that doesn't help things.

[BFEL]

I picked bisexual, though that's just the sexual part honestly. If it came to anything serious/romantic I don't really have any interest in men.

Not sure if this kind of thing has been discussed yet, but I just do NOT get this. I've seen other girls who say this and it baffles me.

Perhaps its just cuz I'm a man, but this seems almost offensive. It probably shouldn't be, but it feels like you're saying "I consider men nothing more then fleshy dildos"
It almost feels like seeing someone who thinks of women as objects, but gender flipped.

Anyone wanna educate me on how this is different?

[MaximumZero]

I picked bisexual, though that's just the sexual part honestly. If it came to anything serious/romantic I don't really have any interest in men.

Not sure if this kind of thing has been discussed yet, but I just do NOT get this. I've seen other girls who say this and it baffles me.

Perhaps its just cuz I'm a man, but this seems almost offensive. It probably shouldn't be, but it feels like you're saying "I consider men nothing more then fleshy dildos"
It almost feels like seeing someone who thinks of women as objects, but gender flipped.

Anyone wanna educate me on how this is different?

To be frank, the body wants what the body wants, and that doesn't always match what the heart and brain want. I've never been particularly interested in a relationship with a man, despite my unchecked carousing way-back-when, because I'm not interested in being in a relationship with them. Simple as that.

[Vector]

Not sure if this kind of thing has been discussed yet, but I just do NOT get this. I've seen other girls who say this and it baffles me.

Perhaps its just cuz I'm a man, but this seems almost offensive. It probably shouldn't be, but it feels like you're saying "I consider men nothing more then fleshy dildos"
It almost feels like seeing someone who thinks of women as objects, but gender flipped.

Anyone wanna educate me on how this is different?

You're a dude, right?  Presumably you have male friends?  If you on top of that wanted to fuck a dude, that does not mean that you consider him "nothing more than a fleshy dildo."  There's the friend part, too, which means you think he's human.  Unless of course you think romance = friend, which is a different kettle of fish.

The problem with people thinking of women as objects is that usually they are actually thought of as objects.  That precludes seeing them as contributing members of society, potential friends, human beings in general, anything but food for the genitalia.

[Mr Space Cat]

This is Dwarf Fortress. We don't have time to get laid, we're too busy micromanaging depressed alcoholic midgets.

You just done got sigged bro.

[WillowLuman]

I'm actually surprised that we have more Asexuals than gay/lesbians in here.

Why? This is Dwarf Fortress. We don't have time to get laid, we're too busy micromanaging depressed alcoholic midgets.

Cloudsprites begs to differ.

[Gunner-Chan]

Not sure if this kind of thing has been discussed yet, but I just do NOT get this. I've seen other girls who say this and it baffles me.

Perhaps its just cuz I'm a man, but this seems almost offensive. It probably shouldn't be, but it feels like you're saying "I consider men nothing more then fleshy dildos"

I don't know how exactly you see it that way. Casual sex is casual sex. Doesn't matter who's the one wanting it casual. Besides I'm married. Just it's an open relationship so I can still go have fun too.

[Descan]

Besides I'm married. Just it's an open relationship so I can still go have fun too.

ugh

* Descan stares at you.

[Max White]

Question: Does that actually qualify as polygamy? Just out of curiosity about how we term things...
If Janet and her partner are fine with an open relationship then great! Enjoy! I'm glad that two mutually consenting adults were about to go about that honestly instead of going behind each others backs and destroying that relationship, but for the sake of our filing system, we need to know what folder to put this under. Is there a separate sexual preference for favoring open relationships? Is this a common trait or more obscure? Is this perhaps something all people can be bought around to with the right stimuli, or are you born into it? We need data!