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[Vector]

My argument was not that my strategy would be successful, but rather that it does not make me a bigot.

Allow me to invert those traits.  My partner must dislike firearms, and my partner must be at least agnostic.  This is exactly the same logical statement but for some reason you think it will improve my romantic success?

I am pretty fucking sure that my long-term happiness will be better determined by not dating people I don't want to date.

[Rose]

The only hard and fast rule I have regarding who I won't date is that I won't date somebody that isn't a vegetarian. Mainly because I don’t want to live with somebody who eats meat if I can help it, due to it squicking me out, and nor do I want to make a partner give up their diet.

[GlyphGryph]

Which is why I said that there's nothing wrong with doing it aside from it being an ineffective strategy in most situations.

Also you didn't invert anything, the first is still exactly a negative statement, and the second is still expressly exclusionary.

But whatever, do what you want, I hope you buck the odds and it works out for you.

[MaximumZero]

My argument was not that my strategy would be successful, but rather that it does not make me a bigot.

Allow me to invert those traits.  My partner must dislike firearms, and my partner must be at least agnostic.  This is exactly the same logical statement but for some reason you think it will improve my romantic success?

I am pretty fucking sure that my long-term happiness will be better determined by not dating people I don't want to date.

I was basically trying to say exactly that. You have your preferences, and that's okay. It may rankle some feathers on the people you reject outright, but hey, there's a lot of fish in the sea. (Funny note: I'm both a hardline atheist and have fired a gun. That should kill any future shipping between us. )

[Rose]

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[XXSockXX]

Yeah, there's a difference, if you make just a seemingly random list of things or if it's things that are fundamentally important to you. A serious relationship with someone whose worldview is completely opposed to yours is very difficult to pull off.
For a fling it's basically enough if that someone doesn't annoy you too much, for a serious long-term relationship you have to be compatible in a lot of ways and be able to communicate very well.

[Max White]

I'm not going to go calling people bigoted for having a preference list, but I will reserve my right to say that it just isn't the best idea.

Date people you find attractive, by what ever traits you happen to find attractive in them. If you really is some qualifier that kills all romance for you then guess what, you have no need to put that trait on your list, because you are never going to actually be attracted to that person. Your instincts have you covered on this one. You already have a very comprehensive selection method to sort partners buried into your subconscious. If that process decides that it doesn't like people based on their gender, trans/cis status, accent, skin color, height, religion, what ever, then fine, that doesn't make you a bigot, but going to the trouble of making your own lists and checking them twice is just redundant.

[Vector]

the second is still expressly exclusionary.

Any "absolutely must have" will be expressly exclusionary.  It will be exclusionary of anyone who does not have that trait.

Let's play this game one more time: I have PTSD, and that does not make me a bigot, and not just that but it does not make me some wretch who no one will ever love.

Your instincts have you covered on this one. You already have a very comprehensive selection method to sort partners buried into your subconscious.

Right... that was all I meant.  When I exclude some partner, I try to ask myself what it was so I can understand myself better.  So, I have a list of things that generally do not make a person a winner, and it's not a list I manually check or something.  I don't go to a person and try to figure out if they fit the criteria or not.  I just have a pretty good idea of where not to go looking: Gunshows, Richard Dawkins fanclubs, etc.

Thanks for that!  I hadn't realized I wasn't coming across.

[Dutchling]

Ah. You seem a lot less silly now :p

[Tylui]

I don't know where ya'll are coming coming from arguing with Vector about how she chooses a mate, but I would guess with 99% accuracy that she knows what she's doing, and exactly why she's doing it. I've dated someone with a personality quite alike to hers in the past and trust me when I say she's not going to have any trouble once she finds the one she wants. And she'll leave a lot a of people jealous to boot...

[Max White]

Right... that was all I meant.

So you are just innately not attracted to people with a cultural background similar to that already present in your family... Vector you are one weird kid.

[Tylui]

Vector you are one weird kid.

And you're not?

We all are...

[MaximumZero]

This is one of those times that I'm happy that I'm not in the dating pool anymore. Dating is a pain in the ass.

[LordSlowpoke]

MZ's got nothing on me and my never being part of the dating pool in the first place. =w~

[Dutchling]

Can you explain that emoticon-like thing to me please.