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[Grek]

Is it really blackmail? Being honest about your intentions and your boundaries is the basis of a good relationship. "I won't date you if you're still on drugs." is no more blackmail than "I'm not the kind of girl who has sex on a first date." or "I won't date you if you're going to dress like a slob."

[Vector]

I think it's all about the way you go about saying it.  There's manipulative and non-manipulative ways to say the same thing.

[mek42]

If you brought this up in the rooms, what do you think you would be advised?

[CaptainLambcake]

i personally don't judge a person's worth based on their addictions/problems, and i wouldn't mind what she did on her own time, but if you really do like her, and she feels the same way, try to get her to go clean

[Helgoland]

It might be interesting to know how she copes with addiction: On a scale from homeless crazy person to functional addict from the 1%, where is she? I guess if you want to stay clean, the most important thing is not being exposed to social settings where drug use is the norm...

[BFEL]

I think it's all about the way you go about saying it.  There's manipulative and non-manipulative ways to say the same thing.

I would argue that any action whatsoever is a form of manipulation. Walking is a manipulation of gravity, friction, muscle elasticity and an astronomical number of other factors to achieve movement. But that's pretty derail-y

As for actual on-topic advise I say that LordBucket makes a lot of sense, but should add that the issue here doesn't seem to be her "problem" with getting clean, the issue is the OP's problem with staying clean. To which I say that the girl will certainly exacerbate the issue, and the OP should be aware of this when making his decision.