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[PkGamer]

To summarise it I'm lonely. I got friends of course and i meet them everyday.But I'm lonely in the other perspective that I don't have a girl or anything.Like during day it OK when I'm occupied with crap to do but Im one of those people who manage to do all their assainments and stuff at breaks .And I end up with a lot of free time.So I go online trying to fill that hole in myself by playing games watching TV surfing the web.So I manage to get through that fine enough.Then I'm tired and I need sleep.And sometimes it unbearable. I end up hugging the blanket like if it was a real person.  You can't live of food(which I'm cutting down on) and websites with naked people....
Like I like a couple of girls and as far as I know from my friends some kinda like me too but I'm too nervous.And the worest thing is rejection I guess.I fear it.I grief it.It is what keeps my machine of madness,lunacy and nakedness going in my drawings and it is what inspires me.I am a f**ced up case to put it in short.
Any suggestions what should I do?

[Darkmere]

Man up and talk to the girl. If you get rejected... tough, everyone's been rejected. You move on and try again. Either way, if you don't bother, you'll continue like you are now, forever.

[Urist McScoopbeard]

Bro, put simply: fuck bitches, get money.

Jk, terrible idea... Unless greed is your thing. Anyhoo, maybe you need to spend MORE TIME with your pals, go see a play, or play some tennis. It sucks to be alone and bored.

If it is a girl you wish to ask out, just talk to her and see what happens, there's no easy way about your nervousness, but you gotta struggle through it. Its one of those "the only thing we have to fear, is fear itsself" moments. If you DO get shotdown, it wont be the end of the world.

[Shook]

What the chaps above me said, basically. I KNOW that feeling of fearing rejection, it is also something i fear greatly, and it's the primary source of my shyness. I also know the feeling of being too nervous; it's like every fiber of your body saying "DON'T DO IT", right? Well, sometimes you just gotta shit on that feeling and do it anyways. The few times i've managed to overcome my absurd nervousity are the few times i've made the greatest steps in my life, and i have a feeling that it'll be so for you as well.

I haven't approached a girl yet, but i am, for the first time in my life, legitimately warm on this girl in class. I know this because i feel super awkward around her, but not in the negative way. One day, i hope to talk to her about it. I know she at the very least considers me a friend, but i fear that if i were to confess that i like her beyond friendship, it'd ruin said friendship. I'm also not sure if i'm ready for a relationship like that yet.

But you? You desire it, so go for it! Regardless of the answer, you'll have closure, and you can move on.

[Urist McScoopbeard]

also for the record, excessive amounts of pornography and pillow-hugging is not the end of the world either, shit that's like my every day bro!

On top of that, if you confess you like her more than a friend, and that ruins your friendship, maybe consider how good of a friend she really is. A real friend would NOT reject you if you felt that way about them even if they didn't feel the same about you.

[PkGamer]

To tell you the truth that's not the full story.
Chapter 2:
Now this may sound absurd but I know it happens and I'm just wondering say like I'm not in love.Maybe its just my mind filling in the blanks?Or am I just jealous or want to do better then a friend?

Oh now I remember....I lost my sketchbook...I need to find that and draw some crap...

[Darkmere]

I'll save you some time. You don't know the girl, so you aren't in love with her. This is true for any "her" you don't know. With that ground-shaking revelation out of the way... you can move on to actually getting to know someone for a person and THEN make the call when you aren't fawning over some idea that you expect people to meet for your benefit.

Either way, the solution is the same. Stop moping and start fixing the problem. Talk to girls.

[PkGamer]

Chapter 3:
I do actually know the girl but not that well.Like I meet her while meeting my friends and there's some small talk and a couple jokes.And my willpower is full of shit.If I can't get up at 7:00 and fall back asleep how am I supossed to as a girl out?

[Darkmere]

I'm not sure where the mental break is between talking to someone and talking to someone like this:

"Hi, (name). I was wondering, do you have plans for (date, time)?"

Other than what I've already said. You can wither and wonder... or ask and know. The choice is yours to do as you will and that's all anyone here can tell you.

[Vector]

A real friend would NOT reject you if you felt that way about them even if they didn't feel the same about you.

With certain caveats.  Real friends also know that no means no, and how to respect boundaries in general.

(Not saying you're something awful or something OP, but I've had to drop a lot of people for this reason--and screwed up with it plenty myself)


Try creating something, OP!  More stuff.  Put your lonely heart into it and let your soul bloom.

[PkGamer]

Ok so basicaly the solution is to ask her out?Well ok...But that has more problems associated with it.It has to be the right moment, the right time, the right mood, the right face, the right text, the right line, the right clothing, the right surrounding and other crap like that!How the hell am I supposed to get it right?And then I'd say 99% chance that she will reject and then I need more alone time that I have enough of....In other news I drew a wierd Elvis looking guy in a finnish gasmask form around the 1939...

My will power sucks...
I suck...
The way I look sucks...
What I do sucks...
Everything about me sucks...

[freeformschooler]

It has to be the right moment, the right time, the right mood, the right face, the right text, the right line, the right clothing, the right surrounding and other crap like that! How the hell am I supposed to get it right?

If you really believe that, I feel sorry for you. Hope those two sentences were just a huuuuuuuuge exaggeration.

Also, confidence is imaginary. If you really believe you suck, you probably do. If you believe you're awesome or at least have the capability to be awesome then, surprise surprise, enough work and you will be.

[Shook]

Bro, girls aren't robots that'll dismiss non-perfect attempts, they're humans just like you. Suppose that this girl was feeling the exact same way as you are, which is entirely possible. What if she were to ask you in a clumsy manner? Would you reject that? Probably not. Unless you're in the middle of brawling a bear with your bare hands, it's not the wrong time. Unless you're in the middle of a funeral, it's not the wrong mood. Your face will do its jazz on its own, because most facial expressions are subconscious. As for the text? That's not very important. It's not WHAT you say, but HOW you say it. And if you're sincerely trying to express your feelings, you're saying it the right way, even if you're just garbling out something. There's no single definite right way to tell someone how you feel about them, so don't worry too much about that.

Also, for what it's worth, i don't believe that you suck. I mean, you had the cojones to ask us for help, right? I know it's easier on text, but remember, it's still humans on the other side of the monitor, just like the girl you want to talk to. It's not illegal to think good things about yourself in your head, it's in fact encouraged (within reasonable limits of course) and beneficial (higher sense of self-worth). It is very important to feel good about yourself, because remember, you're the one who has to live with yourself forever.

One thing you can try to get away from the toxic mindset of "i suck :c" is to have a little journal for yourself. Try to write in it daily, but don't sweat it if you miss a day or two. And on top of usual journal things, try listing down 3 good things about yourself or good things that happened to you every time. Can't remember who it was, but it was some awesome person on this forum that has mentioned this tactic more than once. It might feel awkward at first, but trust me, it'll get nice quickly. It's also nice to have a place where you can dump all the feelings you have that you don't wish to share with the entire world.

Edit: VECTOR IT WAS. Our lovely mathematical phenomenon. <3

[PkGamer]

Well for now Im making a RP so I'll be focused on that.I'm gonna try and focus on asking the girl.

[sjm9876]

99% chance that she will reject .

You know what that is?
A 1% success chance.
Which is greater than the 0% success chance of never trying.
Even if you don't get it 'right', which no one ever does, you've still got more chance than never trying at all.

The other thing I have to say though is that if she says no, accept it. Don't harass her. Just leave it be. depending on the person, it could even get you a new friend if not a girlfriend.

And you only suck as long as you believe you suck. You know why you suck? Because you're making no attempt not to.

Like I like a couple of girls and as far as I know from my friends some kinda like me too

See? Those girls clearly don't think you suck if they kinda like you. That's just you.