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[DarkArtemisFowl]

Wow. That's awesome. Yes, you should ask her then when you get the chance. Also, baking is a nice gift. Just make sure you don't go overboard with gifts, maybe a cookie or two is fine.

[Tiruin]

On a somewhat seperate note, I found one or two desserty recipies I'd like to try. Would it seem wierd if I were to give her something I bake(assuming it turns out well)? It's not something big, something like homeade candy bars. I've bought her cookies before, though I had to give them to her through a third party, she apparently took them well.

I'd wonder what world I'm in when things get weird if people offer you baked goods O_o

I mean, really. Cookies. Homemade cookies. If things have the quality of being homemade, it's a plus (well, in my book). And I doubt anyone can turn down pastries at all (unless diabetic) or candy bars (or lack a sweettooth..unlike me).

Give her cookies/anything like that directly. I see nothing wrong with that at all.

[Vector]

Well, in full honesty, too many gifts makes it feel like someone is trying to buy you.

Desserts could be nice, though!  Just don't give her a whole batch or something >_<

[gman8181]

Bring her expensive gifts and sweep her off her feet.

Nah, you don't need to bribe her affection. Just talk to her and be yourself and most of all have fun! Bond over shared activities and make her laugh or be gentlemanly and maker her smile. Let her fall for you and then when things get more serious, you can pull out the romantic stuff like cooking. Of course if you like cooking and that genuinely is a part of your personality that you want to share, go ahead and do so. Super great if you like cooking and she finds it really sweet that you made something for her.

Really though, have fun!

Haha, I almost feel hypocritical giving this advice. Never really did feel that connected to anyone. That said, the ladies do tend to respond positively to that stuff. I guess people in general do. A lot of that advice is applicable for making friends not just girl friends. Take out the romantic stuff but yeah.

[LordBucket]

I actually had an oppurtunity to ask to have lunch with her, but I couldn't say anything.

Contact with a girl does not need to be august and notable. "Hey, could be pass me a spork? Thanks." is a perfectly valid way to talk to a girl in a cafeteria. In fact she is far more likely to agree to hand you a spork than to go out on a big scary date. But by asking her for a spork, or the time, or directions...or any trivial little thing...you make contact which results in you being more familiar to her, and her being less intimidating for you.

Talk to her. What you say doesn't matter as much as the fact that the two of you are talking.

If you build up some big epic fortress in your mind out of I Will Ask The Girl On a DATE(TM), you're setting yourself up for difficulty. You'll be nervous, and it will show. She'll be wondering why you're nervous. Possibly even suspicious. (Why is this guy so nervous? Something must be wrong, and I don't know what it is, so I'd better say no. That's the safest option.) And if she says no after you'd built up such an Epic This Will Be a DATE(tm) in your head, it will be that much more difficult to do it again.

Talk about something not so weighty. Talk to her. Ask Her Out On A DATE(tm) can happen later.

[Akura]

Clarification on the giving her something I baked: I only intended give her some of something I've given to a bunch of other people. It was just something I wanted to try an make, and I figured she might enjoy some.

Unfortunately, I haven't seen her yet. However, her friend mentioned that she's been really happy about something lately. Considering what I was told last week, I can put two and two together here. Of course, even if 2+2=11 - it does, if you think about it - I am happy that she's happy. About something.

[LoSboccacc]

well pretty lonely girls are a man magnet and she wasn't really going to lose anything to go out for a date or two.

big miss here is that if she's looking, just asking for a date is enough - and if she's not, it was hopeless to begin with but there is nothing impolite in asking and be rejected.

better than regrets.

but then again maybe you're just shy and asked the wrong question to begin with.

[AlleeCat]

Alright homie, I'm gonna lay something on you, it's some heavy stuff, make sure you're sitting down.
Girls are people.
II know, right? Shocking! But it's true; girls are people. The best way to get a girl's respect and admiration is to treat her like a person. Not like a girl. Not like a being from another dimension. Like a person.
If you end up dating this girl, you need to make sure you treat her like a person with her own thoughts, feelings, wants and needs. Make sure you communicate with her. If you don't understand something she said, it's not because girls speak another language. Ask her to clarify, and make sure she knows she can do the same with you.
Don't let her lead the relationship, but don't take charge of it yourself. Relationships take teamwork, and I've been in enough where teamwork wasn't happening to know that it's absolutely necessary. Essentially, treat her like a really good friend you just happen to kiss and do dirty stuff with.
Oh, also, cook for her. Seriously, girls love that shit. :3

[DarkArtemisFowl]

^This, essentially. You've got to balance out the relationship to where neither of you are doing more work on your parts to sustain each other's lives. And of course, ignoring all the media bogus helps, definitely. Talking with each other also helps too, a lot actually, since, well, that's what you're there for!

And cooking/baking is very good. Both because it's delicious for you and a wonderful turn of events for her. No loss for anyone here!

[Akura]

Major news! Lemme describe my week.

Monday, saw her, but didn't get a chance to talk to her, since she was leaving when I noticed her and I didn't actually expect to see her.

Tuesday, saw her, gave her those caramel bars(she loved them!), and asked if she wanted to have lunch. She says she wants to think about it first.

Wednesday, she walks up to me and says before she'll have lunch(and, obviously, do anything else) she wants me to meet her parents. Unfortunately, I just happened to be swamped with work that day, and could only say that was fine before (awkwardly) running back to what I was doing it.

Thursday, I apologize for running off, and we exchange phone numbers. I have to admit, she looked fairly nervous when she gave her number to me. I call her that night, and arrange to meet her mother the next day after I get off work. It just so happened that they had something to do at the college at that time. The nervousness from earlier in the, however, seemed to be gone.

Friday, before my shift is over, they stop in to get a sandwich. Her mother is nice. And while she may have been nervous the day before, she was smiles and giggles when she came by. After my shift, we sit in the cafeteria. I expected her mother to run me over the coals(and I'd be fine with that), but instead, she sits on the other side of the cafeteria to give us time alone. We spent a nice time talking and eating our sandwiches(the one she bought, and one I brought from home). She and I have more in common than I thought. Even better, she actually lives a lot closer to me than I thought, as well.

There was an awkward stretch of silence, since she's not very talkative herself, and I couldn't think of anything else to talk about that might not have been too prying. Her mother noticed this and came over to help break the ice a bit. I... was a bit uncomfortable when her mother asked me about what I've been doing since I graduated, since I'm not really willing to talk about the hell my family has put me through in that time just yet. But other than that, I think we both had a pretty good time.

Girls are people.

I know that. I don't intend to treat her like anything less.

Oh, also, cook for her. Seriously, girls love that shit. :3

I already promised her more of those caramel bars. She really did like them.

[LoSboccacc]

She wanted you to meet her mother, for a date?


Run, mate.

[AlleeCat]

She wanted you to meet her mother, for the first date?

Yeah, while I think that's a little odd, I can't blame her for being cautious.

[Akura]

I think it's more her mother tried to turn it into a date. I didn't intend it to turn it into that, and I'm not sure if she did. I thought it was more of her parents seeing if I'm good enough for her. Apparently, I was wrong.

[LoSboccacc]

She wanted you to meet her mother, for the first date?

Yeah, while I think that's a little odd, I can't blame her for being cautious.

Before the first date if I got it correctly

While I agree being in ladies being cautious, being cautios is suggesting a populated bar for a cafe, not with the parents.

[Tiruin]

Eh? I don't see how meeting another's parents is a weird thing..I mean, here, its just a normal thing--you get to know the other person more, and anything else is secondary. Maybe she was just interested and that there was a coincidental time to meet her mother and stuff like that.

Anyway, that's real good to hear Akura. Glad to see it turn out well.