I like the building aspect, the social possibilities and the exploration of a new world adventure.
I think trading could be nice too if there were regional difference so that caravans and ship-travels would be necessary.
Grinding is so relaxed in this game (to play it, not to get the max out of it in minimum time) that I can watch a show along the way.
Fighting (I only know PvE) is unspectacular and sometimes boring.
But the thing that is the worst on Xanadu is that you need 21 body strength to destroy building-parts. And to load crates on a wagon you need 23. That is way too high for a very necessary thing (destroying). And it doesn't need to be so high as a premium feature.
Good that I have nice neighbours who plays way longer as myself
I wanted to give her control of my house deed so she could do whatever with it.
if you mean with "her" our old mayor "Caly" then you search the wrong person. It's not her deed anymore. One citizen stole many animals and other stuff from her and she sells the deed. After that it becomes a ghost town I think.
I really don't like the PvP aspect of Wurm, but the grinding gets me as well.
then Xanadu is the right place for you...you can grind in enough empty spots and don't need to live in a populous area.