My ability to give advice is terrible, but I will try to help you out in the least sane way possible.
By speaking my opinion at you.
It's every article I read, every professional I talk to, and every family member I meet. "You're 19 and you don't know how to...
1.Speak spanish
2.Throw a horseshoe
3.Cut down a tree (okay I can do small trees)
4.Tell me where minnesota is
5.Drive a stick shift
6.Draw the right and proper way
7.Whistle
8.Snap your fingers
9.Carry a tune
10.Skateboard
11.Play football well
12.Flirt like other people do
13.Do that fancy bridge shuffle?
1.I've never like Spanish, and I can't see a real need to know this one. Also French is better at making other people feel inferior.
2.This is a totally useless skill. Never once will you need this skill in life.
3.Ok, this one might be useful, but I can't do that.
4.Nobody cares about Minnesota
5.In today's day and age of automatic transmissions, I doubt you'll need this unless there is a zombie apocalypse. If that happens, I'll come get you.
6.You have amazing drawing, convention is for sissies.
7.This really isn't very necessary at all.
8.Neither is this.
9.Neither is this.
10.Don't even get me started on how unnecessary this one is.
11.Or this.
12.I never learned how to flirt. I am the most anti-social person I know, and I'm happily married. What does that tell you?
13.This one is overrated. Take it from someone who can, having people ask you to shuffle gets frelling annoying after a while.
I do not understand competitive team sports. They have never been fun to play no matter how many times I've tried. Basketball, volleyball, baseball, even ultimate frisbee. It seems most people have inside of them a fundamental desire to be a part of a team and triumph over teams. I do not have that. I was literally born without it.
Competitive team sports is not needed for life. You don't have to be good at them. You don't have to understand them. You don't have to like them, and you don't even need to know the rules. They were made by people who feel insignificant if they do something that doesn't have the potential to disappoint another person, so they made games where they have clear cut enemies, and don't require a lot of thinking to understand how to hit them or humiliate them. I have never liked sports of any kind. I do not enjoy another person's sweat and underarms in close proximity. And I can't imagine anyone that would. But apparently there are those who do, but they aren't important.
As a result, I can only connect with a lot of people in my area on a superficial level because there isn't much to do locally except hike, eat and play sports. I've resorted to totally fake and not-real Internet Friendships I shouldn't have because they're not real friends like mean come on geez dude in place of "real" friends because every "real" "friend" I've made has had exciting primary interests like "sex," "parties," "sports" and other things I just don't fucking care about, at least right now.
"Make new friends or you won't be able to X! Oh, you have trouble making new friends? It's probably because blah blah blah just need to lighten up and learn new skills to impress people and have something to talk about."
Let me tell you something that I learned way too late in my life.
You don't need friends to do anything.
Sure, people can enjoy them, but if getting far in your life is what you want, there is absolutely no "friend requirement" anywhere.
The concept of "sex," "parties," "sports" as you put it, is stupid. The fact that these are the top priorities of these people, and the fact that they are the ones that are telling you that you can't do anything, is blatant hypocrisy at its best. These are the people who think that their lives are great until they wake up and realize that they have wasted their life away and accomplished nothing, while making fun of the people like you who actually have talent.
I don't know. Maybe you're right. Heck, maybe no one's completely wrong. I love the idea of just doing my own thing and saying screw the world, but that's exactly what I did three years ago when I basically just stayed inside, talked to my Internet friends and became good at Super Smash Bros.
I want to tell you a story about my life.
When I was a kid, I had no friends, at all. Not even people who pretended to be my friend. I literally had nobody to talk to, not even my own family would listen to me. I didn't really have access to the computer to make internet friends, either. So I went down to the basement, brushed off the Nintendo, and played Super Smash Bros. for years of my life. In 6th grade, my class got a new student, some guy from a different state, who was used to things like school uniforms and being taught the proper way to be polite. He stuck out like a sore thumb. Because nobody liked me, the only seat in the class that wasn't taken was next to me, so he was placed there. We didn't talk to each other for about 3 days, until he noticed me drawing maps for Halo in the event that I found a map editor. After a while, he became my only friend, but I still never talked to him outside of school. I never talked to anyone else until 8th grade, when I met this kid who was a huge Star Trek fan. He even knew Klingon. But that's not really important. When I went to high school, I decided that I would change, and that I would make friends and talk to people and have fun. That's not me. My friend became quite good at this. He made lots of friends, with charismatic people. After a while, he stopped being the guy I knew. Now, I don't really like using curse words, but he became a total douche-bag asshole. So I stopped talking to him, and everyone else, with the exception of one girl I knew. Now would probably be a good time to mention that I'd never dated anyone. I never learned how to talk to girls, or, for that matter, to consider them in any light other than as some form of sentient life form. Just like the male sentient life forms that beat me up regularly. Combine this with the fact that my interests did not very well include things that would be of interest to the standard model of female sentient life forms, and you'll realize that I have exactly zero capability to relate to them in any way. This was my total list of skills at the time: Mythology (gained from playing Age of Mythology, mostly), Math (which I failed because I had no motivation), Video Games, and fighting using various weapons and martial arts. The only reason at all that we got together was because we could relate on one thing. Both of our lives sucked. I won't go into details on her past, but they weren't fun, and so she could understand why I harbored a hatred and resentment for the whole of the human race. So, when exactly did I ask her out? Never. In fact, we were best friends for two and a half years before we basically just both agreed that we might as well be dating by that point, and skipped about eighty percent of the normal social process involved with dating. I still don't know how to flirt. I still can't talk with people. I still find people to be overall creepy and disturbing. I even have a fear of crowds. I never learned any of the normal things a human should have learned by that point in my life. By that point in my life, I had switched my self training from quarter staves to actual spears in order to make sure it was lethal. Now if that was utterly confusing, I'll explain. Long story short, I decided that if my dad made due on his threats, it would be him going down, and not me. I spent ten years of my life, from the time I was eight years old, when he started, to the day I turned eighteen, and left to get away from there. That's a lot of time I spent on a skill I never needed to use in the end. That time could have been spent devolving some skill I could have used, like following my dream of being a video game designer. Now where was I? Oh yeah, friends. What I'm trying to say is that you have the opportunity to do what you want. And you don't need other people to do. Sometimes it's best to just trust yourself and your own capabilities. You don't need to worry about things like friends, you can get them later, in any case. I'd suggest working on something you enjoy, not something some else wants you to do.
Since you said it would be good to list them, here are a few of the "useless, wasteful" things I am interested in learning:
1.A second language
2.How to art well
3.How to music well
4.How to code well
5.How to better help people in need
6.How to voice act and carry a tune
7.How to finish projects
8.How to be funnier and more spontaneous
9.How to be more outgoing without feeling like i am putting on a show (not sure if possible)
10.One on one or small group party games (pool, card games, darts - I love these but am bad at most of them)
1. Really, this is up to you. Find something that could potentially get used in your life, though.
2. You can art really well already, you just won't admit it.
3. I have no advice here.
4. I am totally clueless on this one, and I wish I could do it.
5. Ok, I'll have to ask you a question on this one. How are you unable to help? Do you not feel like you are capable? Do you have trouble actually going to them and helping? Do you simply not know what to do in order to help? What is it specifically?
6. I don't know about this one.
7. Hahahha, I'd be the worst person to give advise on this one. I have to trip over unfinished projects just to make it to the bedroom.
8. Honestly? I don't think you have a problem with this one. Most people really don't. It's just that they don't appeal to the common standard of humor. I don't find myself funny. Most people don't find me funny, but my wife does, because she actually gets my humor, and that's what counts to me.
9. Hmm... All of my advise is kind of going against being social in general, probably shouldn't listen to me on that one.
10. Pool: I can't help with. Cards: same issue. But Darts, on the other hand, I'm pretty good at. You want to know what the biggest problem with throwing darts is? The way you throw. Since you say you're bad at it, I'm going to assume that you throw like most people do, where you hold the dart over your shoulder, making practice hand motions like some kind of golf player does before a shot, possibly even sticking out your tongue like an idiot like a lot of people do.
Get on youtube or whatever, and look up the methods of Shaolin Monks using some proper throwing spikes.
I'm not kidding.
The trick is to get the dart to spiral in mid-air, this allows it to take less of an impact from air resistance, and fly straighter.
Yes, I had people make fun of me for not holding a dart like they did, unlit I flicked my wrist from down by my waist and got it to actually hit the target. Technique is very important for any kind of throwing weapons. Take it from someone who's spent a few years at it, throwing something isn't something you just pick up, figure out the right kind of technique, and train at it. And you do
not need to train with darts, you can train with just about anything that you can throw in the same manner as a dart or a knife. So as long as you aren't training with javelins, you're good. (Although if you can get your friends to play a good round of javelins with you, that's good, too.)
This is most likely the longest post I've ever written, maybe the longest one I'll ever write.
But long story short, if the zombie apocalypse happens, I'll grab my spear and come get you, and we can play Super Smash Bros. together.