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Re: I have a friend who is gay and I wanna be there for him.
« Reply #30 on: August 02, 2013, 04:44:24 pm »

Things have changed so much, when my high school niece had a sleepover they included one boy, because he was 'safe'. (with the sterotypical lisping voice that bugs me... otherwise pretty hot.... for a high school boy... err...)

Completely socially acceptable now, compared to when I was in high school just one generation ago.
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Re: I have a friend who is gay and I wanna be there for him.
« Reply #31 on: August 03, 2013, 09:09:31 pm »

Because you know, it is safe for heterosexual girls to be around guys, but it isn't safe for heterosexual guys to be around girls.

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« Reply #32 on: August 04, 2013, 12:05:55 pm »

LordBucket, this is the first time I have ever agreed with you on anything.


Also, none of this "cute widdle gay dude needs protection" stuff.  Protect him or don't protect him, but infantilizing is not the thing to do.

Trophy? Infantalizing? I guess I screwed up? I didn't mean to.

I don't wanna do anything bad. I just see a person in pain who's scared and I wanna be his friend. To me the gay thing just means he's not gonna try anything. He seems really isolated and doesn't have a lot of friends. I've never done this before.  He seems depressed and fragile to me, or at least really sad, and I wanna help.
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Re: I have a friend who is gay and I wanna be there for him.
« Reply #33 on: August 04, 2013, 03:09:37 pm »

Things have changed so much, when my high school niece had a sleepover they included one boy, because he was 'safe'. (with the sterotypical lisping voice that bugs me... otherwise pretty hot.... for a high school boy... err...)

Completely socially acceptable now, compared to when I was in high school just one generation ago.

I would've freaking loved to have been invited to a sleepover in high school / as a kid. Rom Coms, hangouts and stuff, honestly this is what I do with my straight female friends now (and some of them have husbands who are cool with it cause they know I'm 0 threat to them anybody at all. My threat to them is probably somewhere in the negative numbers with the whole me liking men and not their wives/girlfriends. I think that means I'm the opposite of a threat or something. ). If I could've been honest about how I am as a kid, it would've been blatantly apparent that there would've been no reason to exclude me from a sleepover. Not really sure I qualify very much as "male" [shrugs].

I wish it were completely seen as socially acceptable today, but sadly I think it depends on where you are and who you ask.

Because you know, it is safe for heterosexual girls to be around guys, but it isn't safe for heterosexual guys to be around girls.

Max, I .... You are full of awesome, but it's different. Most fathers aren't going to let a straight boy sleep over in the same room as their daughter and her friends, because there's a risk of things happening. Consensual things happening but still, come on man, don't make me say it. With the gay boy, this isn't an issue, because of different motivations.

A straight boy might have wanted into her pants. The only way I would've wanted into a girl's pants is to see if they fit me and I'd much rather wear a skirt and talk about boys with her :) [blush].
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Re: I have a friend who is gay and I wanna be there for him.
« Reply #34 on: August 04, 2013, 03:20:39 pm »

I have been out of this particular sub-forum way too long. Just popping in to say femmelf is clearly an awesome girl, be vaguely sad that Truean didn't get a femmelf for a friend in high school and to possibly glean some help for a very vaguely similar situation.
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« Reply #35 on: August 08, 2013, 03:37:55 pm »

[nods] O yeah, I would've absolutely loved to be able to have a friend like that as a kid.

Even now having to live in the closet sucks. Thankfully I now work with one of my friends and she knows how I really am. It's completely different interacting with her while keeping up the act that I'm just straight. Sadly necessary it seems.
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