If you want to be the bigger bully, then you have to hit the other guy so hard that never in his life will he be able to recover and try to take you out. In other words, you have to psychologically damage him in a permanent way.
I dunno. That's not really something I'm up for.
Yeah, me too. I'm just not a bully. I try to be reasonable and other people just are not.
Example, my mom wants to know why this company won't do something she wants them to do. Question is, why would they do it at all? It costs them money and they really don't have to do it, so they won't. She blames me for them not doing it. Same idea with pretty much everybody.
I don't understand why people do this kind of thing. Something they want can't happen. They get upset or mad and then more or less demand to know why whatever they want to have can't happen. Come on, the world doesn't work like that.
They're shifting the blame and the responsibility for an answer to somebody else, and it feels like this is usually me.
I then tell them something that's true, but something they don't wanna hear (and I don't like it either but it's just how things are). They blow up at me like I'm personally the one screwing them over.
Jesus, basically it's a great big don't shoot the messenger.
Yeah, you are absolutely right in that the messenger often get shot down, but you know, I suggest you don't change that part of your personality. Some people do see through that bullshit, and I am persuaded that a lot of the success I have had in my job and personal life are directly a result from not shying from the truth and telling things how they are. Be honest, look at them in they eyes and tell them what you think, if they want to take it out on you (verbally) let them, be the better man(or woman) and don't even gratify them with an answer.
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Topic: How do you keep from being the world's doormat/letting people ruin your day? (Read 2593 times)