In my case I emigrated because my father was offered large sums of money to do a job the company apparently felt the locals weren't capable of doing as well. It's also worth noting that I personally had no choice in the matter, as my mother put it at the time "You can come with us, or we can put you up for adoption" (and for those of you wondering, she was being flippant, I highly doubt she would have let me be adopted).
How does that fit into your picture?
The question concerns the individual and not whether he or she was forced or not. It's whether or not he accepts the deal or doesn't.
My family transferred to France for my father's job for a while. I learned French. I spoke French. I was friends with French People. By the time I left France I had the French accent.
I understood that for that particular moment, 'Italy' was inferior to France in some regards that my father believed in. It wasn't accepting it or not, it was understanding that since I emigrated I was a 'guest' in another country, and thus I followed their laws and traditions.
Even when 'forced' to follow, (angrily, i might add) I never reacted and accepted it.
My brother spent five months suspended from school, because he wanted to go back to Italy and 'refused to comprehend' the gibberish the French were saying.
Acceptance versus refusal to integrate.
The point is that once you
Have the choice the fault is yours, whether you 'integrate' or not is something YOU decide. Not something your parents can decide for you. And i think I stated it was the 'You' who subtly implies it, otherwise why emigrate in the first place? in this case your father was simply offered a 'Superior' deal. Thus he left behind the 'inferior' deal.
It's logic, plain and simple. We move to the things that are 'better' and leave behind those that are 'worse'.
Accepting that when in another country is key to integration.
@Frumple:
The point is more thin to catch, I'll try and explain better:
Emigration means 'going from A to B because of X'
X is generally a
positive thing. You emigrate for money, work opportunities, freedom or what not.
Maybe you emigrate to North Korea because Kim Jong offers you three thousand dollars in cash.
However
You are making the choice.
You are choosing the pros and cons. You are the one claiming 'yeah, freedom in North Korea will be horrible, but the money offsets it! let's pack and go!'
If you actually go, then you cannot ask Kim Jong to let the people go free. You accepted the 'superiority' of his nation over your own beliefs and culture, all for money. (And if you say the opposite, prison is yours in his nation)
Superiority isn't the 'I'm better because everyone else is worse'. It's the 'I am leaving a situation that is worse in some aspect for one that is better in some but might be worse in others' but 'since I left, then I'm trading a 'generally average of 67 happiness' for a 'generally average of 70 happiness' or something like that. Otherwise, why emigrate?
(Generally average is considering all possible socio-economics connotation, freedoms and what not)
People who emigrate do so for a 'better thing', and in doing so they Should claim their previous country 'not on par' as long as they remain in the country they are in. That's the rule of guests in a house. You enter another man's house, and even if she or he might have a leaky roof, if they like it leaky...then why insist they fix it? They want it leaky, leave it leaky unless the house's owner asks you to repair it. In which case go ahead. Otherwise, leave it leaky.
They enjoy the rain.