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[Leatra]

Oh when is she ever that kind of girl? She is never that kind of girl! That kind of girl doesn't even exist...

Heh, I absolutely agree.

Even this "she is not that kind of a girl" is a cliche now.

[Jo]

This is what happened:

1. She wasn't into you anymore, and had the guts to end it. No hate. No loathing. Just wasn't into it. Happens all the time. Unless someone cheats, beats the hell out of the other, or dies then this is always the reason for breaking up. JUST NOT FEELING IT.

2. She didn't talk to you for months because that's just the way it goes. If you aren't dating then there's nothing to talk about. She let you off easy too, she could have wanted to be 'friends' meaning you'd still have to talk to her and put up with her bullshit without all the boyfriend perks. Bullshit includes her talking about other guys she wants to fuck. Consider yourself lucky my friend. Clean break, best way.

3. She's going to the prom with your friend because she digs him. Has nothing to do with you. At all. You are merely a complication. Don't take it personal.

You aren't over her. That sucks. You might not have known you weren't over her, then your friend goes to take her to prom and realize you just aren't over her. I feel for you bro.

The only solution is time and another girlfriend. Go get yourself another. You don't have to hate on your old girlfriend, she just moved on way quicker than you, it happens and it always hurts/sucks.

Goddamn I wish I'd known this crap in High School.

You didn't ask or mention it, but this 'friend' that is taking her to prom is no fucking friend at all. He's gotta know it'd hurt your feelings. Unless he's really into her he'd have told her to go fuck herself. So he either really likes her, is a huge fuckwit douche bag, or he's desperate to go to prom.

That's my take. Good luck man. Go find another lady, and try not to be bitter. This shit is going to happen over and over and over and over and over until one day when you stop giving a shit you stop having to worry because you are suddenly married. Life. Sheesh!

[Lectorog]

3. She's going to the prom with your friend because she digs him.

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Secondly, my mate's just informed me that she made it extremely clear that it wasn't a date.

You didn't ask or mention it, but this 'friend' that is taking her to prom is no fucking friend at all. He's gotta know it'd hurt your feelings. Unless he's really into her he'd have told her to go fuck herself. So he either really likes her, is a huge fuckwit douche bag, or he's desperate to go to prom.

Really? If my friend was broken up with someone for two months with no contact, I'd assume they didn't care about each other anymore.

[Jopax]

Except his friend also asked him if it's okay with him. So I wouldn't exactly call him a douchebag, just someone who doesn't mind that she's his ex but is still considerate enough to ask him about it being okay if they go out (which they apparently aren't doing).

[noppa354]

My advice here:
1. get over it, realize it doesn't matter
2. find another girlfriend
3.
4. profit

[Lectorog]

My advice here:
1. get over it, realize it doesn't matter
2. find another girlfriend
3. not understand this thing that confuses you
4. profit

filled in for you.

[noppa354]

the "realize it doesn't matter" part refers to understanding it
don't bother figuring it out, it's a waste of time

[Jo]

Really? If my friend was broken up with someone for two months with no contact, I'd assume they didn't care about each other anymore.

And you'd be dead wrong.

[Jopax]

How can you be so sure tho?

You can't speak based solely on your expiriences (me assuming you are) and act like it's the same for everybody else. A billion people is a billion different personalities and you can't make such a sweeping statement without anything backing it up other than "because I say so".

[Jo]

Except his friend also asked him if it's okay with him. So I wouldn't exactly call him a douchebag, just someone who doesn't mind that she's his ex but is still considerate enough to ask him about it being okay if they go out (which they apparently aren't doing).

Think about it man. The friend asked because he knows it's an issue and wanted to alleviate his guilt. And if he didn't really want to go with her then why would he risk hurt feelings? If he didn't give a shit about her then hurt feelings would matter more to him than some prom 'non-date' event. But he does care about the girl, or at least wants to bang her, which is exactly the same thing in the end.

It's just important to be honest about what's really happening. Maybe no one involved has figured it out because of all the emotions clouding judgment. But you don't risk hurting your friend's feelings over some girl you don't care about.

The thread starter did the right thing though. Give his buddy the go ahead. You never know, they could fall in love or some shit. And you can be happy for them in some small way, and be proud of yourself for getting through the emotional turmoil.

The solution to the emotional turmoil is to get another girlfriend. Time will make the feelings fade, but nothing gets you over the last one like the next one.

[Jo]

How can you be so sure tho?

You can't speak based solely on your expiriences (me assuming you are) and act like it's the same for everybody else. A billion people is a billion different personalities and you can't make such a sweeping statement without anything backing it up other than "because I say so".

Oh sorry I was not speaking generally. I was speaking in this case, obviously this guy isn't over it and the friend knew that or he wouldn't have asked. That's all.

I do speak from a vast reservoir of experience, but I'm not trying to hold that over anyone's head.

I do come off like a know it all though don't I? Hmm....well it is the life advice thread...this situation just seems painfully obvious is all. I'll try to tone down my 'surety' in the future.

[Lectorog]

Really? If my friend was broken up with someone for two months with no contact, I'd assume they didn't care about each other anymore.

And you'd be dead wrong.

I really don't understand. Please explain why people don't talk if they care about each other.

[Catsup]

i have no idea what the hell's going on.

so whats the problem exactly? why do you still care what she does?

[Lectorog]

My guess is that he wants to understand to learn more about human motivation and see if it concerns him. That, coupled with no reasonable downside to asking...

[Jo]

Really? If my friend was broken up with someone for two months with no contact, I'd assume they didn't care about each other anymore.

And you'd be dead wrong.

I really don't understand. Please explain why people don't talk if they care about each other.

Now that's a great question. I wish I knew man. I really do.

It's less common when both care, very common when the lady doesn't care.