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[k33n]

Oh, ok, yeah. You only wrote two and a half pages.
Anti-depressants are very bad, though.

Incorrect

...

This may sound harsh, but...

You are being used. She clearly has no respect for you, so have some respect for yourself. End the relationship.

[geronimo]

Yeah.. I'm mostly afraid of being lonely. Because I have no hobbies that Im pursuing right now, or friends, I have family I dont really like all that much, no classes right now since I have a college bill to pay off. All I have for socializing is work and internet friends..

It is too high a price for not being lonely to have someone emotionally leech off you. Relying on just one person for social contact isn't a good idea anyway.
I have friends from youth, but I've also met a lot of friends through common interests, in my case going to concerts and music clubs. Going alone to a bar is awkward at first, but after a time you might get to know cool people if you find a nice place. Pretty much the same as with internet places, if you're there long enough, you're a regular. Real life is pretty much like here, you have to reach out, you might get a terribly stupid response or it might go great and it's the start of a friendship. Just don't expect too much, and you won't be disappointed.

Right, yeah. I'll give it a shot. I'm doing the best I can right now to handle it, it's just... I'm not good with change. I mean I'm studying math and fluid and solid mechanics and mathematics of engineering and science, I have 3 different flight dynamics books and I'm not even in school right now for it, I'm just interested, so I guess that sort of counts as hobby.

Your subject choice is pretty epic, not one for me, but epic. What do you want to accomplish before your 25, 30 and 40?

[zehive]

Stafu

[Scelly9]

Block her, unfriend her, pull out the internet cable, anything. It's not healthy, dude.

[zehive]

Big gay

[Darkmere]

Block her, unfriend her, pull out the internet cable, anything. It's not healthy, dude.

^ This

Leave. Don't think about it, don't make excuses, don't rationalize, don't worry about what will happen when this parasite is gone from you. Use whatever emotional scalpel you require and excise this tumor from your psyche. Burn her from your life, whether it takes a bic, a torch, or an apocalypse. She is poison and you are choking to death on her bullshit. You know it, we all know it. You wouldn't have come here if you didn't know, so... act. Go delete her now. From everything. For your sanity, your future, your life. Make an end to things.

You can't truly begin again until you end this.

[geronimo]

Yeah.. I'm mostly afraid of being lonely. Because I have no hobbies that Im pursuing right now, or friends, I have family I dont really like all that much, no classes right now since I have a college bill to pay off. All I have for socializing is work and internet friends..

It is too high a price for not being lonely to have someone emotionally leech off you. Relying on just one person for social contact isn't a good idea anyway.
I have friends from youth, but I've also met a lot of friends through common interests, in my case going to concerts and music clubs. Going alone to a bar is awkward at first, but after a time you might get to know cool people if you find a nice place. Pretty much the same as with internet places, if you're there long enough, you're a regular. Real life is pretty much like here, you have to reach out, you might get a terribly stupid response or it might go great and it's the start of a friendship. Just don't expect too much, and you won't be disappointed.

Right, yeah. I'll give it a shot. I'm doing the best I can right now to handle it, it's just... I'm not good with change. I mean I'm studying math and fluid and solid mechanics and mathematics of engineering and science, I have 3 different flight dynamics books and I'm not even in school right now for it, I'm just interested, so I guess that sort of counts as hobby.

Your subject choice is pretty epic, not one for me, but epic. What do you want to accomplish before your 25, 30 and 40?

Masters before 25, active position gaining experience and working for a doctorate before 30, a position in some private or governmental space agency before my mids 30s. Hey, maybe with people being signed on as mission specialists and flight engineers I should go put in an astronauts application hah. Theyre very, very, very lofty goals, but you know, its what Im aiming for.

Too many words, too specific. I could have asked what you want to accomplish before 40 and have expected the same answer. Thinking big is not the issue here, one sentence 10 words, what do you want to do before you're 40, try and take that question as seriously as possible, if you can.

[Vector]

Oh my fucking god.

Grow a spine.  Cut her off.  Never speak to her again.

[zehive]

Hmmm

[Vector]

No, uh... make it so that she can't send you messages, is what I mean.

[zehive]

No, uh... make it so that she can't send you messages, is what I mean.

Oh, right. Like remove her from facebook and everything? Because I have my chat turned off to her and figured that'd be good enough, but yeah she's still sending me messages and everything.

[Scelly9]

YES. Unfriend her, block her on your phone, set up a filter to delete any email from her, stop reading anything from her.

[geronimo]

YES. Unfriend her, block her on your phone, set up a filter to delete any email from her, stop reading anything from her.

No, no, no bad idea. He clearly wants to still be friends with her, I think that's taking it too far. That's actually quite immature, in fact it would be substantially better if he just asked her for some time to sort out his thoughts.

I love desserts and other junk, cheesecake, apple pie, more cheesecake - you name it. Excepting chocolate of course, I can't eat something that both looks and tastes like something that comes out of the wrong side of me - but as I was saying every morning I would go to the canteen and spend cash buying desserts.

I decided enough was enough and to stop myself I'd carry less money and order lunch in the morning when I had highest resolve so I wasn't tempted to spend, win win right?; I save and don't buy that junk. The thing is this worked, but I knew that it didn't solve a thing, and would still spend it on junk, given the initiative.

This may be hard to relate to but I hope you can see the connection, what you need isn't to bar and restrict yourself from her, instead you need to find some type of mental resolve, find reasons, stop thinking about anyone except for yourself right now.

I want you to clear your head, with boyfriend out of the picture, this girl that you're meeting, forget her too, just think of where you currently stand with this girl right now, I'll call her Vienna. Give it some thought, take your time, jog on it, take a couple deep breaths, and watch some anime [I just watched the first 10 episodes of Shingeki no Kyojin: http://www.animeplus.tv/shingeki-no-kyojin-episode-1 - truly epic so far. Also seeing as I called that girl Vienna consider watching Dear Vienna by Owl City, a very good and soothing music video]. Good Luck, recovery and progress both take time.

[Scelly9]

.... You confuse me.

[geronimo]

.... You confuse me.

Hopefully you're the only one