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zehive

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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #270 on: June 24, 2013, 07:11:15 pm »

Wpwsers
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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #271 on: June 24, 2013, 10:25:29 pm »

Hey, GUESS WHAT:

Classic abuse tactic is to find out whatever you want most and withhold it indefinitely.  Like CLOSURE.  Withholding closure and any sort of data you might particularly want is a big one.

Jeez.  It's because I understand where you're coming from that I suggest you stay away, because I'll I'm hearing is "I keep trying to get the same piece of information, but she won't give it to me, so I'm going to keep trying to get it."
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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #272 on: June 25, 2013, 02:40:50 am »

^^^  She said it better than I would have.

*shrug* If the girl was really your friend she'd have either dealt with the situation or acknowledged that you need space.
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And then, they will be weaponized. Like everything in this game, from kittens to babies, everything is a potential device of murder.
So if baseless speculation is all we have, we might as well treat it like fact.

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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #273 on: June 25, 2013, 09:09:23 am »

Thank you, atleast you see where I might be coming from...
Just trying to help you out, man.  It just seems like trying to follow everyone else's advice is doing you more harm than good.  And, yeah, I know the common line of "well, it'll hurt like hell at first, but get better with time".  I'm sure that works out for some people, but it's not a universal concept.  There are some wounds that are never healed with time alone.

So, chat with me a bit here.  How long ago did you meet this person?  Did you become friends right away?  What about her made you call her your friend?  Looking back on your friendship, in light of recent events, do you feel that she put as much into the friendship as you did? 

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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #274 on: June 25, 2013, 06:48:58 pm »

Hmmmmm
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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #275 on: June 25, 2013, 08:39:54 pm »

Interesting
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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #276 on: June 25, 2013, 08:56:10 pm »

I really just want my friend back.

What if this never happens? What then?
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And then, they will be weaponized. Like everything in this game, from kittens to babies, everything is a potential device of murder.
So if baseless speculation is all we have, we might as well treat it like fact.

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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #277 on: June 25, 2013, 09:01:37 pm »

Yeah okay lol
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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #278 on: June 25, 2013, 09:35:18 pm »

I'm saying it's a possibility you should consider, probably besides feeling bad about things you cannot change (her opinions and views of you, and her [un]willingness to resolve the situation with you).

You've displayed codependent behavior regarding her, and I (and most others) here have been telling you, while not in so many words, is that you should break these habits before they lead to longer-term issues.

Strawman what I say all you like. No one tried to help me, so I spent months/years blaming myself for a shitty relationship end that wasn't my fault. I'd like to help you avoid that, which is why I'm here. Take it or leave it, up to you.
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And then, they will be weaponized. Like everything in this game, from kittens to babies, everything is a potential device of murder.
So if baseless speculation is all we have, we might as well treat it like fact.

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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #279 on: June 26, 2013, 02:33:23 am »

I met her three years ago, and yeah we became friends right away. It was pretty much within minutes we were comfortable with one another, and I called her my friend because.. well actually I was pretty in the dumps when we became friend, every time we hang out we had a lot of fun and she always tried really hard to come see me no matter how much I said I'd rather not, she'd still want to come see me and hang out with me and come and just have fun with me and play around. And do I feel she put as much in as I did? If we're talking before the couple weeks before we broke up, yes it was equal. But since then, no.
So, being honest, would you say that anything of the sort that's happening now occurred during those three years? 

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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #280 on: June 26, 2013, 02:57:53 pm »

Hmmmm
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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #281 on: July 04, 2013, 08:37:09 pm »

Fascinating
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« Reply #282 on: July 04, 2013, 08:47:21 pm »

You've got some serious denial going there bucko.  Wasn't this whole thing about how she isn't how you thought she is?
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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #283 on: July 04, 2013, 09:18:44 pm »

Q1 rptate
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Re: Me and my partner
« Reply #284 on: July 05, 2013, 02:06:31 am »

Break the cycle or be dominated by it. Same story as before. I'm really not sure what you're expecting to hear? You openly admit that she won't give you closure and is blatantly using you as an ... eh... for lack of a better term "emotional tampon" (not my invention btw, but it fits), and you're sticking around despite there being someone else interested in you, that you're also interested in?

You know what you want, you've said bluntly what you want, and it really, honest to god is within your power to have it. You just have to seize the opportunity. Go hang out with the new girl, do something fun and whimsical, take a walk, read a book... something that isn't focusing on the ... I can't even come up with a decent word. Plenty of indecent ones, though.

Ah, related note. You're worried about being a pussy? Everyone is. The human condition and all that.  Anyone with sense goes through at least part of life terrified, even if they wouldn't admit it to anyone else. But we conquer it, and you can, too.
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And then, they will be weaponized. Like everything in this game, from kittens to babies, everything is a potential device of murder.
So if baseless speculation is all we have, we might as well treat it like fact.
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