Not to cast doubt on you for this, but I would actually like to see this list. Because I personally seriously haven't seen it very much, at least not in major titles released this decade.
Do I play games? ... Seriously? I, too, would like to see your list. I might agree with you, I might disagree with you, but I want to see that list.
Here's what's installed on my computer right now. I didn't "cheat" by uninstalling anything before making the list.
Age of Wushu - Sexual dimorphism does exist, but it is equivalent. There is one "men only" school and one "women only" school, and several gender-neutral schools. Many strong women exist, and if you want to be and be surrounded by strong, capable female fighters...you can.
Eve Online - No sexual dimorphism at all. Men and women are exactly equivalent in ability. Many strong women exist. It is possible to create a custom character avatar that is "sexualized" but is is equally possible with both genders.
Dwarf Fortress - The only sexual dimorphism is that only women can give birth, and it's the mother who carries the child after birth. Men and women are exactly equivalent in ability. Many strong women exist. No sexualization exists.
Neverwinter Nights - No sexual dimorphorism at all. Men and women are exactly equivalent in ability. Many strong women exist. Some unequal sexualization does exist. For example, only women work in the brothels. But notably, the npc in charge and ordering around the men for most of the game is female.
Diablo 1 - Sexual dimorphism does exist. 2/3 of the available classes are male-only, with the third being female-only. Notable, the "best" class is male-only. Some unequal sexualization does exist in the game. For example, succubi have exposed breasts.
Clannad - This is a visual novel. The player is limited to only playing a male character. There is a secondary male character who is portrayed as
The Butt Monkey. The female characters are well developed with unique personalities and interests. Weak, passive female characters do exist, but they are outnumbered by strong, competent and capable women. Some sexualization does exist, but the visuals are generally PG rated, and women are generally placed on a pedestal more than objectified. For example, kissing is portrayed as a "Big Deal."
Patapony - The majority of characters in the game are either female or animals of unspecified gender. The narrator is female. The "player character" is a troop of exclusively females. One villain is female. One villain is a swarm of genderless animals. Only one male exists, and he is a villain. No sexualization exists.
Elona - No sexual dimorphism at all. Men and women are exactly equivalent in ability. Many strong women exist. Notably, both men and women can have sex with members of either gender, and both genders are capable of becoming "pregnant." Some unequal sexulization exists. For example, there is one npc in particular who is disparaged as "getting around" and her panties appear in game as a weapon.
Morrowind -
No sexual dimorphism at all. Men and women are exactly equivalent in ability. Some sexual dimorphism exists in the sense that most races have slightly different starting stats by gender, though stat totals are the same, and both genders may advance without limitation. Many strong women exist, including two goddesses, one of whom is the narrator, and the other of whom is portrayed as clearly more powerful than the primary male god.
Might and Magic IV and V - No sexual dimorphism at all. Men and women are exactly equivalent in ability. Many strong women exist. Some unequal sexualization exists: There are more scantily clad female npcs than male npcs.