I don't exactly agree with you k33n but its fair criticism of her work. After all many of her videos indicate that she has issues with victimization and makes no exceptions to that rule.
As for Third Wave... I wish I kept my book but it actually listed and broke down many of the forms of feminism. What you speak of was that weird form of Feminism that believes that even the way the English language is structured is inherently sexist.
So I think what you describe isn't typical of third wave, but is what seems to get the most attention.
Marxist Feminism which prime tenants is that allowing women to have equal pay and opportunity for work would improve the economy, is a third wave that rather grounded.
But I think the important thing to remember is you don't HAVE to accept all forms of feminism, you don't have to agree with everything feminism says, nor are you sexist because you don't agree with it. As such it doesn't matter what it really says.
What I find interesting about Feminism as a social construct is that it is incredibly loaded. Modern Feminism acts like an Ideology exactly like Conservatism, Liberalism, and Socialism and all those and is just as politically charged. Yet Feminism also blends into the sciences and is allowed to do so unlike other ideologies (there is no Conservative Science courses to my knowledge). It is also a philosophy with its own depictions of what is right or wrong in everyday life and many forms of Feminism outright disagree with each other based on this. Yet also it has been said that if you agree with equality for women that you are feminism (Mind you, this isn't common). As well it is also a "movement" or advocacy (this is the definition the dictionary uses), you are feminist if you advocate women's rights or at least do so while calling yourself feminist.