No I am not saying that. I am saying if it was a game... ironically it wouldn't be handled the way you are trying to potray it does.
Joe and Bob are characters not slaves to the setting. Bob kills the murderer because he killed his family. Why does Darkspawn destroy everything in Dragon Age: Origins? Seriously, how can you not see this? If the story I made up was like choosing between acting like a satan vs angel, what about the story of Dragon Age?
The Darkspawn are part of the setting they arn't characters with autonomy or even much freewill. No different then demons and monsters (in fact they are monsters).
Joe and Bob though have this autonomy and they have this freewill. They have within them the ability to rise up and challenge the very setting they are in and even succeed. Bob is a product of his experiences and the conclusion he came to was that because he experienced tragedy (ugh bad spelling) in his life that he is going to murder others.
When he does this he is giving into the setting. He isn't breaking the cycle of violence and murder he is perpetuating it. As well there is a expectation within the setting that everyone, who is alive, must also adhere to the setting as well.
He becomes an agent through which we feel the full weight of the setting.
He will never rise above his surroundings, he will never change the setting, he will never come up with any conclusion not perscribed by the setting. In that sense he is a slave to the setting. If he ever thought differently it would only be to show why he is wrong, correct him, and keep him on the path. Thus anytime they differ from the setting it is only to highlight the setting and then put them back on. (in many ways I am realising that this grey setting is EXACTLY like a black and white setting. Where in trying to be realistic they essentially created a gravity well on grey)
It is why I don't really care about Bob... because there is nothing to care about and he isn't going to do anything I care about. If he took down the mafia it would only be with tactics that would be equally as villainous, if he did something good it would be negated, if he gave his life for an ideal it would be in vain. Putting any inch of investment into Bob is just going to lead to emptyness because... that is the setting. Empty.
Bob kills a murderer and Joe kills Bob (accidently) and then he ends up with agreeing with Bob's ideals for a while.
Exactly. The cycle continues. Round and round
You are trying to narrow down everything to black or white. Maybe it's the reason why you don't like gray vs gray settings at all.
It is about actors and Agents. Bob and Joe are agents.
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My issue is just the futility... It is a soul shatteringly depressing setting. Where everyone better just pick up a gun because things arn't ever going to improve.
It makes me depressed.
Does this mean it is bad? No... (Mind you it isn't an example of a story where I care about neither side... but rather a setting where I don't care about the characters because there is no reason to). My favorite story about a hopelessly depressing situation is Umineko Koro Ni (or however you spell it), yet it is SOO DRAINING! It is an anime that just sucks your soul right out.