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DangerDwarf

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The old relationships in the workplace topic
« on: December 12, 2012, 03:57:22 pm »
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #1 on: December 12, 2012, 04:10:08 pm »
I'd say go for it if you don't work in the same department.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #2 on: December 12, 2012, 04:11:40 pm »
Yeah, while I have zero experience with this particular issue, I can't imagine there being any workplace problems unless you actually work together. If anything it's a bonus, since you can meet during lunch breaks and such.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #3 on: December 12, 2012, 07:04:52 pm »
If it ends bad, you may regret it.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #4 on: December 12, 2012, 07:11:57 pm »
Quote from: pisskop on December 12, 2012, 07:04:52 pm
If it ends bad, you may regret it.

Unfortunately this is relevant advice for almost everything in life.

Edit : A point well made below.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #5 on: December 12, 2012, 07:33:00 pm »
Sorry, had others things going on.  I've gotten the Oasis to talk about the philosophy of God, Ethic, and the Dark Ages. . .

To elaborate on my position, I think you should never have affairs with a co-worker.  Not anybody who you may see at or near work more than once a month.  Its bad policy.  for you, whatever the company says.

If it goes well, that's grand.  But, unfortunatley the odds that this love affair will be 'the one' is rather small.  This means a break-up may happen eventually.  And that means that feelings may be hurt and tensions rise.  If anybody feels like they didn't have adequate closure than they may try to spread rumors or talk negatively about the other.

Companies can be divided over this stuff, and life can be made hard.  If this is your career, than you may have to live with the outcome for the rest of it.  Not good.  Add in the politics of a workplace and it can be just one more thing to hate about life.

I often have the 'friends are great things to have, and all too often it is ruined by sex' talk with a girl.  They are usually not 'damn attractive', but they can be.  The key, for me, is to talk about this before I 'know' they like me.  They think its more or less spontaneous, and I don't have to crush their feelings.  And if they bring it up later I can say I didn't know.

The dynamic isn't perfect, and somethimes (mostly) the girl eventually drifts away from me, becoming a casual aquantice over time.  I firmly believe that workplace relationships should be avoided, drunken or otherwise, at almost all costs.  It too often backfires, and (I fell it) detracts from work and production (if that kind of thing matters to you).
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #6 on: December 12, 2012, 09:24:36 pm »
NO!
Unless you don't care about your job

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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #7 on: December 12, 2012, 09:45:22 pm »
Quote from: DangerDwarf on December 12, 2012, 03:57:22 pm
co-worker in another department (with whom I was talking quite a bit earlier but did not know very well beforehand)
Bolded are the reasons I don't think there will be any problems.


If it goes south, I'm pretty sure it'll be easy to just avoid her.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #8 on: December 12, 2012, 09:53:03 pm »
Quote from: kaijyuu on December 12, 2012, 09:45:22 pm
Quote from: DangerDwarf on December 12, 2012, 03:57:22 pm
co-worker in another department (with whom I was talking quite a bit earlier but did not know very well beforehand)
Bolded are the reasons I don't think there will be any problems.


If it goes south, I'm pretty sure it'll be easy to just avoid her.
That hardly matters if she goes to HR.  OP will be likely be dismissed at the slightest hint of someone alleging sexual harassment.  Most companies don't want to risk expensive lawsuits.  It happens more often than you'd think.  It's a stupid risk to take.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #9 on: December 13, 2012, 01:31:48 am »
Ah, I suppose that's true. Personally I'd never ever consider dating a person who would remotely consider doing something as underhanded as that, though.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #10 on: December 13, 2012, 01:37:54 am »
There's no payoff worth the potential for disaster here.
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« Reply #11 on: December 13, 2012, 01:53:57 am »
Quote from: kaijyuu on December 13, 2012, 01:31:48 am
Ah, I suppose that's true. Personally I'd never ever consider dating a person who would remotely consider doing something as underhanded as that, though.
I don't think anybody would, but that's kind of the point.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #12 on: December 13, 2012, 07:03:10 am »
Worrying about somebody doing that is like worrying that a driver may hit the gas on red light just to run you over. I mean, yeah, there really are some horrible persons out there, but they're few and far inbetween.

Besides, can't you always threaten the company with a wrongful dismissal lawsuit? HR would have to actually look into the sexual harassment case rather than just take her word for it, and if you did nothing wrong you've got nothing to fear. And if you're a member of a minority you could also threaten to include racial discrimination in your wrongful dismissal case, which will make any HR department back the hell off.
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Re: The old relationships in the workplace topic
« Reply #13 on: December 13, 2012, 07:15:59 am »
Oh for fucks sake. Half the couples I know met a the workplace.
The only reason to be wary is if there's a superior-subordinate relationship.
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« Reply #14 on: December 13, 2012, 02:38:37 pm »
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