Thank you Imp and AutomataKittay!
That explained it a bit more, the chart helped out a lot!!
I now have another issue.. I've already reached the 2nd year (spring now) the first caravan arrived and left without my lazy dwarfs trading anything, I've gotten two waves of immigrants and still there is no beds!? My dwarfs are just too damn lazy! Don't get me wrong, I know how to create the beds, but no one seems to wanna do the chore.. they prefer other things instead and my original woodcutter that has some novice carpenter skills is apparently easily distracted and so on according to her profile. So far I've managed to create two beds thanks to the butcher who finally helped me out, but I would need some more and I have no one with the skills for a manager job? How can I force my dwarfs to do a specific task?
Dwarves with specific labors enabled will do jobs that these labors allow. Jobs also tend to have a priority too, so certain jobs tend to be done before others. Sometimes the dwarf's distance from the job source can be an issue too.
How I would fix your problem: I would use Dwarf Therapist to create a template for my dwarves that had almost every job enabled. I would not allow hunting, fishing, or medical work (Like surgery, though feed/water wounded is fine) to anyone without careful thought, but every dwarf can do every other labor (note you cannot both be a woodcutter and a miner, so I usually have a specific number of miners and everyone else defaults to woodcutter (Until and unless they are intended for the military - military dwarves should have both mining and woodcutting turned off to avoid weird equipment conflicts).
So now all my dwarves have all meaningful labors turned on, and as more migrants arrive I can quickly give the new ones the same template. As I gain specialists through moods or immigration, if I want to have a job done just by someone good at it I can quickly remove the labor from all the others too.
Then, when I say 'make me 5 beds', with or without a manager, those beds get made by someone unless EVERY dwarf I have is busy or somehow trapped so they cannot get to the job - both are very noticable, and whenever I want work done and don't care how good the job is - that work gets done as fast as anyone in the fortress can manage it.