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[vadia]

Yesterday I heard some statistics on how many women are abused by their partners.  It's calculated at 1 in three will have been abused in their lifetime and in college 1 in 5 will be.
nearly 4 women are killed by intimate partners every day (I think these statistics are only for the U.S.A. but the problem is more or less worldwide).

But there is hope.  There is a site that one can use to assess if one is in danger -- it's free, so the only reason that I'm telling you about this is that I fundamentally believe that the aforementioned statistics are inexcusable.  It's not a few people falling through the cracks.

If you are a woman in a relationship consider using the site.

If you know women who may get into a relationship NOT EVEN ONE THAT YOU SUSPECT THAT IT'S ABUSIVE, it seems to me that it's a good idea to inform them about this site.
 http://www.joinonelove.org/resources-help

If every woman has knowledge of and access to this site, I am confident that many women will be saved from murder and millions (perhaps billions [since I fear that many of those who are abused this way are abused multiple times]) of cases of abuse can be prevented.

[Knight of Fools]

So, it's a support site? Or is it a site actually designed around punishing and/or stopping abusive partners? It's not very clear on their web page.

Anyways, I've always known the abuse numbers have been pretty bad, but I didn't know it was that bad. Glad to see something's being done about it, at least.

[MetalSlimeHunt]

So.....what did you want advice on?

[Zrk2]

I think this would have gone better in GD.

[rutsber]

Any source on those statistics? A lot of numbers like that are inflated so that charities can get more donations. The logic is that no one is willing to challenge that, because they would look like a scumbag for doing it.

[kaijyuu]

I'd also be curious as to what type of abuse we're talking about. Big difference between dating an asshole and dating a rapist. Both bad and should be gotten away from, but

[penguinofhonor]

I believe that specific statistic is sexual abuse, possibly sexual abuse combined with domestic violence.

[Sensei]

There's something wrong with your link, it doesn't go to the tae-kwon-do site properly.

[Ogdibus]

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[ChairmanPoo]

It also helps us keep our own behavior in check, so that we do not become abusers, and if we are already abusers, we can choose to change.

We are not talking here about sporadic domestic arguments, but bona-fide years-long, repeated, and delliberate abusive behavior. It's not something you become by accident. And it's rare that they genuinelly regret it (though VERY USUAL for them to beg forgiveness to manipulate their victim back into their clutches). In their heart of hearts, they mostly stay unrepentant.

I recall a TV documentary... they interviewed a work-group of 20 or so convicted domestic abusers. Only ONE of them actually admitted he had wronged his wife, and regretted it. The rest? They either denied it wholly (mind you, I'm not saying a wrongful conviction is impossible, but I doubt very much EVERY SINGLE ONE of those asshats was a victim of a miscarriage of justice), or claimed that "she deserved it".

I have the misfortune of knowing two domestic abusers first hand (one who physically abused his wife and children, the other who engaged onto psychological abuse -which yes, is a very real thing. Again we're not talking about misunderstandings or arguments here, but of years of gaslighting and manipulation to delliberatedly hurt someone-). They were both hypocritical, cowardly bastards who kept a nice, "stepford smiler" façade to the public. I don't think either of them was unaware of what they were doing.

[Ogdibus]

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[vadia]

http://www.joinonelove.org/library/resources/onelovelite/index.html#da/screening_prof
Is the online danger assessment survey, and the app for the survey was above the link to that survey on the link that I provided, but I agree that it's kinda confusing where the link is.