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[Dredonius]

Here's the problem. I really like this girl, (smart, funny, exceptionally beautiful, etc.) but she went out with one of my best friends. She has flirted with me a few times, and I think she likes me back. I want to ask her out, but that might destroy my relationship with my friend. How do I do this? Please reply.

-Dredonius

[Rex_Nex]

When you say "went out", do you mean she is currently going out with him, or do you mean she is his ex?

[Dredonius]

They went on one date so far.

[stabbymcstabstab]

How recently? If its been a while It won't really matter.

[Valid_Dark]

Just man up and tell her how you feel,  if it comes up in conversation with your friend tell him what's up.  Don't waste you're worrying about others feelings, take what you want and don't be sorry about it.   Best way to live life.

[Rex_Nex]

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[rutsber]

A lot of this depends on the type of person you are. I'm stuck in a similar situation, but I'm doing nothing about it because I don't feel I'm worth her time. I would advise you at least talk to her, as doing nothing rips you apart emotionally. If you tell her how you feel, she might reject you, but at least you'll know that you did something as opposed to wondering what could have happened had you done something.

[Kedly]

I'd say talk to your friend about it first. If you go ahead and flirt with her it carries a very real threat of damaging your friendship. It's likely your friends will see it as a betrayal, so It's best to talk to him first and tell him how you feel.

[shadenight123]

Yeah, just talk it with your friend first and foremost.
Depending on his answer you should either back off or go for it. Furthermore 'flirting' is quite generic, sometimes it's only a misunderstanding on gestures and actions, so best be safe than be burned: talk with your friend.

[LordBucket]

I'd say talk to your friend about it first.

+1

[Dredonius]

Well, it appears that their first date didn't go very smoothly. I think I'm going to try and jump in at a later point. Thank all of you guys for the advice.

[Dredonius]

Now, the problem'll be getting a date, and not seeming like "Hey, I know your first date didn't go too well, but hey, I'm much better than that other guy!"

[Patchouli]

Uh, so did you talk about it with your friend?

[Ricky]

I usually never post in these threads, but this one I actually have personal experience with. It depends on your friend, really. I know from personal experience that if your friend is a good guy, he wont take it too hard. By some random act of god, i have managed to date both of my friend's crushes. My friend understood and took it well. He's still my friend and we still hang out. We've actually talked about how awful it is that the two girls he had a crush on went for me instead of him. So use your judgement on how you think your friend will take it.

[ChairmanPoo]

Was anyone else disturbed by the "An complicated" bit?