That was what I figured. I guess I should have mentioned I am playing ironman.
On a different topic, God hates me. Literally. A cardinal I outinfluenced Spain for 145 to 140 Papal Influence died. I had got 50 from an event so I loaded up on his replacement. Guy dies. Not only that but I've lost a total of 1000 Papal Influence to dying cardinals. In 75% of cases where one of my Cardinals gets elected he knocks out one of my already elected cardinals(I noticed a pattern and started keeping track). I haven't gotten a cardinal spawn for over 50 years even though I am the largest nation, Catholic or otherwise, in the game. In 80% of cases, 4/5, where I had to choose which cardinal to focus on until my Papal Influence bounced back, the guy I didn't pick was elected within 6 months and the one I picked eventually died before reaching the Curia.
I really need to gain control so I can drop two royal marriages and be able to annex all my vassals while still being able to declare war. I started this game in control, lost it 20 years in and never got it again in the following 80 years. I have a perfect relationship with the Papal State, the largest nation, perfect religious unity, and I am the Defender of the Faith and have been for 50 years. Unfortunately when your cardinals constantly die with 50-250 Papal Influence invested or bump another of your guys off if they do manage to get elected, no amount of player intervention can ever matter. There is no action of any kind I can take because the in game version of God has decided to screw me over. Its insane. I must have lost the equivalent of an extra 20 years of gametime due to losses of dip points since I can't cancel the marriages without a stab and prestige loss, but mainly a stab loss, plus the services of the extra diplomat. Hell I bit the bullet and cancelled 2 marriages awhile back. Unfortunately after my 2/2/1 king lived for 40 years, 15 of them when my 4/3/5 heir was of age despite sieges and battles and even trying to drown him at sea, and then my heir only lived 10 years to age 41 sticking me with an 8 year 1/1/1 regency. So I cannot afford to take the stab losses to break the marriages.
This shit is why I am an atheist. God never comes through when you really need him.