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[wierd]

I would hazard a guess--

There are processes the brain does that are not the product of conscious choice.

Put your hand on a hot surface-- do you consciously pull your hand away, or is it an uncontrollable impulse?

Safer to try--- Try to keep your eyes open when you sneeze.  You will find that you cannot.

[Naturegirl1999]

I can actually sneeze with my eyes open. I see you point, though

[Enemy post]

I can actually sneeze with my eyes open.

What are your other superpowers?

[Il Palazzo]

I'm curious why the brain can think of itself as seperate. Like, why can we think of our brain doing thins other than us? or why is it possible to think of thoughts that you don't think about thinking about?

I think you might like this book:
'Conscious: A Brief Guide to the Fundamental Mystery of the Mind', by Annaka Harris
Here's a podcast with the author discussing some of the topics, to help you gauge what it's about:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vqP5ukwyfp0

[Kagus]

Gaaaah... My 'Hidden Meme Style' Google-fu has failed me.

Local bartender is a big prequel memes fan and tries to sneak as many "Hello there!"s and "Do it!"s into each shift as possible, and I've been trying to dig up a gif I've seen a couple times with the "Hello there" scene, except edited to show a veritable army of Obi-Wans each jumping down and spamming Grievous with hellos.

Basically this one, except without the reddit drama tacked on to the end. And I'm just not finding it.

Any masters of the art out there able to help me in bringing a good 5 seconds of entertainment to this random person on the other side of the world?

[Yoink]

I thought you said they were local...?   

[Kagus]

I thought you said they were local...?   

Local in Norway. Nobody lives in Norway though, so we're on the other side of the world from everyone else.

[Yoink]

Have any of you been to Hamilton, Ohio?   

[Naturegirl1999]

Have any of you been to Hamilton, Ohio?   

No

[TD1]

Also no.

Question: How does one avoid the impression of leading someone on? I've talked to a girl at work for the last few shifts (just being myself, really) and there have been myriad things to suggest that she may be interested. Most recently, I took my break later than her, though the two overlapped. I sat with her and some others, they finished and went back to work. She stayed because she "really wanted some tea", meaning she burned through two breaks in one.

I know it doesn't sound conclusive, but trust me. I am not good at picking up on these signals and even I can tell.

[Naturegirl1999]

If you are unsure, maybe ask, though I do not flirt, or search for flirt signals, so this is probably not helpful. I am unsure how people would react to asking about whether they are sending subtle signals

[Kagus]

So, this has been a topic of some thought and discussion in my friend circle as of late, and unfortunately there isn't any one good general answer to it.

If you're not actively flirting with someone (and even that is an altogether too-broad term that encompasses an extreme range of various actions), there's not really much you can do to avoid giving that impression. If someone is interested in you, they will generally be perfectly capable of interpreting anything and everything you do as a potential sign of interest. Especially if they don't know you particularly well.

Approaching the subject after you've identified it is also, well, somewhat awkward... If taking the direct route and just telling the person that you've noticed certain trends and that you're not interested in that way, it's absolutely not uncommon for them to deny everything and say that you've got it all wrong.

And no, trying to put the brakes on something by turning on the "freeze factor" and attempting to give signs of disinterest really doesn't work. Not only does it mean being unnaturally distant from someone you otherwise get along with, but a number of people are extremely attracted to that kind of aloof and cold behavior.


There are optimal scenarios where this situation can be neutralized with minimal hurt and disappointment, but those scenarios cannot be guaranteed. You really just have to respect her feelings as a person and tell her, presuming that there's absolutely no chance that you'd be willing to explore things with her.

[Il Palazzo]

but a number of people are extremely attracted to that kind of aloof and cold behavior.

I blame Pride and Prejudice. #BanJaneAusten

[Kagus]

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[wierd]

Classy.  Right up there with finding dates at funerals.