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[MrRoboto75]

DOUG DIETYDOME, OWNER OF THE DIMSDALE DIETYDOME

[Great Order]

For my fellow trans forumites:

Any of you get a thing where you're happy with the idea of being the opposite sex and dressing as such, but dressing as such while otherwise appearing as your birth sex triggers dysphoria?

Because I'm normally OK (As in I can sort of ignore the dysphoria) but sticking myself in women's clothes while otherwise male-presenting will ruin my mood for days. It's bad enough that I'll get vicarious dysphoria seeing other people do it, and the mental image gives me a horrible feeling in my gut, but thinking of myself as a woman while wearing women's clothes makes me feel euphoric.

[Kagus]

If you see someone proudly posting a picture of their new runic tattoo, and while looking at it you become reasonably sure that they're either using some extremely obscure alphabet you're not aware of, or they've just horribly misspelled it... What's the morally correct course of action at that point? Letting them know, or keeping your trap shut so they can enjoy their ink?

[King Zultan]

If I thought it was misspelled I'd tell them.

[Kagus]

I mean... Does it really count as a misspelling if it's spelled correctly, but with the wrong letters?


Edit Update: Turns out he's aware and was intentionally using a mix of runes and Latin lettering. Including using both Futhark and Latin interchangeably for one letter in different parts of the same word.

So, it's a mess, but at least it's an intentional mess.

[EuchreJack]

A nice reminder that people get tattoos because they want to talk about the tattoos, so you can't go wrong asking them about their tattoos.

[Rolan7]

Any of you get a thing where you're happy with the idea of being the opposite sex and dressing as such, but dressing as such while otherwise appearing as your birth sex triggers dysphoria?

Yeah this is definitely a thing.  I cope with it by being somewhat genderfluid, adopting different roles, but I am trying to find my true self.  Even with my partner's help I've had trouble finding what I "want" to look like, but I'm okay if there's nothing to find.

Maybe this is obvious, but wearing non-assigned clothing while not looking *immaculate* reminds me of all the shitty "trans" depictions in the movies I grew up on.

It helps that I've known some very normal people who were not fashion models.  I wouldn't look so out of place with them.

[Vector]

Maybe this is obvious, but wearing non-assigned clothing while not looking *immaculate* reminds me of all the shitty "trans" depictions in the movies I grew up on.

I think this is it. It's slightly different for me because I don't want HRT and don't think I would identify as male in an "ideal world," but I sure as hell do not want to look like the lead from Boys Don't Cry or "generic lesbian number 3."

I try to focus more these days on "what I long for" and think less about what other people will think of me for it. As it turns out, just doing what I want as opposed to thinking about a coherent presentation will make me look plenty queer and highly ambiguous. No need to think about the bigger picture.

[McTraveller]

I think I have finally found words for a recent observation about society.  Maybe I'm wrong...

So often it seems like the response to something in society is an assumption of guilt without evidence.  This is in opposition to the philosophy with which I grew up, which is innocence until proven guilty.

This can be in things like accusations of impropriety or corruption, it can be in statements like "the elite are out to get the poor", it can be in statements like "all cops are brutes" or "all Republicans are fans of Trump".

Wouldn't it be better for everyone's health if we did give people benefit of the doubt until there is real evidence (not just stuff on Twitter)?  Especially people you don't know personally?

[dragdeler]

A pedophile is not gonna change tires on trucks, people pick their activities according to their inclination. So I'm less disagreeing with the overall premise than accusing you of leaving the first cue, which can be a pretty big one, out of the evidence pool. There are actions that clearly shift the burden of proof from the accuser to the accusee.


Super easy example: passing the metal gates in a store and triggering the theft alarm. There are perfectly anodine explanations, no need to lynch nobody just because the beeper rang. But as you notice: the burden of proof just shifted.

[bloop_bleep]

That's because there is already a small burden of evidence in that case.

An accusation is not evidence on its own.

[heydude6]

An accusation is not evidence on its own.

I think that's where the disagreement is. Some people see the presence of an accusation as some evidence. If X% of the people who are accused actually did the crime, then presence of the accusation mean's there's an X% chance that the person did it. The other possibility is simply that the suspect is unlucky.

The American legal system does not accept convictions based on chance though. Juries have consistently demonstrated an inability to understand probability properly so after some high-profile wrongful convictions, we banned that line of argumentation.

[hector13]

An accusation is not evidence on its own.

I think that's where the disagreement is. Some people see the presence of an accusation as some evidence. If X% of the people who are accused actually did the crime, then presence of the accusation mean's there's an X% chance that the person did it. The other possibility is simply that the suspect is unlucky.

Some people are also very stupid and will believe anything they’re told.

Being accused of something does not confer any kind of chance that the act was performed by the accused.

[scriver]

Basically "If the Jews hasn't poisoned at least a few wells, why would people accuse them?" the argument

[dragdeler]

Do you also posit you have a right to be angry if you cross a woman at night and she switches the sidewalk because she is uncomfortable?