This has been something that's bugging me from time to time, more in the sense, am I the only one noticing this rather than the why of it. It concerns burial ceremonies, more specifically those usually done in christian or western nations, the kind of stuff that comes with a casket and a graveyard ceremony/mass and everything. Now I don't know how the rest of the world handles this stuff exactly but from what I've seen first hand the casket is usually carried by several male relatives/friends (generally from the graveyard chapel to the grave itself), then the mass/ceremony is held and afterwards the casket is lowered into the tomb/grave thing. Usually by the same people who carried it, occasionally with help from other attending male folk.
What struck me as odd and fascinating and something I couldn't stop noticing after the first time I've witnessed it was how instant the switch from the reverent/holy air of the entire thing is to the utter and completely profane (in that specific use of the word meaning earthly, not necessarily blasphemous) air of lowering a thing into the ground. Gone is the composure and somber (sombre?) demeanor of those lowering the casket and its occupant, these are now men doing a physical act of work requiring cooperation, like felling a large tree or more similarly, lowering a very big thing into a hole. If you masked out the rest of the procession and switched the casket for any other object I feel you'd be hard pressed to guess the original context of the scene.
Naturally, this is a bit of a fucked up observation to make, especially if it's your relative that's being put into the ground, but it was such a massive tonal shift that it kinda stunned me at the time. And it's even harder to just casually toss this into any sort of conversation with anyone really (well except that one friend but he's a bit of an odd one). So I've been wondering, have you folks attended any ceremonies where you've maybe observed this sort of thing? Or is it something a bit specific to my region and how the people are and how they approach these things?