Or something like that. The definitions of these things (particles and waves in particular) aren't quite fuzzy so much that words haven't been made to describe what they specifically are without the connotations of what we thought they were before.
Or more accurately, no one here has bothered to read wikipedia articles relevant to the discussion.
It's less that matter is weird and more than most people have bullshit preconceptions about the nature of things. Crusty leftovers from the rotten corpse of Plato and similar, combined with a healthy dose of evolutionary baggage.
Things simply aren't discrete, and
a true lack of things simply does not exist anywhere. Time is not weird, it simply can have singularities and infinities; not really any more unusual than such a basic operation as a tangent function. Neither does time flow in one direction; it doesn't flow any more than space does,
our meatspace brains simply happen to operate in one direction due to interesting emergent properties arising from things interacting.
All that aside, the X-Rays you observe from black holes is the result of the black hole feeding, not hawking radiation. Hawking radiation decreases rapidly with size, and so the larger a black hole is, the longer it lives. Supermassive black holes are expected to live on the order of 10^106 years or so. Or approximately 96 orders of magnitude longer than from the big bang to now. One with the mass of the sun would be around 10^66. Or around 56 orders of magnitude longer than the lifetime of our sun. By the time these decay, the entire rest of the universe has pretty much spun down to a high-entropy state in which the energy to even form a star has been gone for eons unimaginable.
The X-Rays you see are the result, not of this tiny trickle of energy, but from dust and such, accelerated to near light-speed, being all jostled and mushed together in a chaotic soup, then shot out in jets along magnetic poles.