[Warning: cursing, hyperbole, and over-generalizations. Also, I was not closely involved in any of the mess, I viewed it from the outside.]
Eloraam stepped up to the plate. She brought some organization to the project. And she contributed a bunch of code to it.
A project like Forge needs direction, it needs a lead developer. Guidance-by-committee seldom works well.
I imagine that's doubly true for infrastructure toolsets. Forge doesn't make pretty pictures or fun gameplay by itself, it just enables the pretty and fun for the coders who use it.
Egos got butt-hurt? So the fuck what?
Don't like Forge's current path? Extend it in the direction you like. I expect Eloraam's reasonable about such things, especially if you have working code ready to merge in. And she's not the sole gatekeeper either, if you feel she's unfair, take it to the rest of the team.
If I'm wrong? If they really can't get along with Eloraam? If they want' nothing to do with her? Branch the fuckin' code, compete, and let the market decide. Do it better and show us, goddamnit!
But people whinging about Eloraam when they've contributed 0 to 99 lines of code to Forge? Fuck `em. Ignore them completely.
Why is this a thing? It should not even be an issue.
Goddamn Flowerchild. Ego ego ego.