I don't think that treating every part of the internet by the same standards as which we give Yahoo Comments is appropriate. I expect that in this discussion thread, posters are working in good faith and are open to a change in their own viewpoint. That's what I mean by "respect." No, not "Yes, this person really has convinced me that misogyny is The Way To Go!!" but perhaps something of what is being said is of value.
There is absolutely no point in arguing with the goal of destroying somebody else's beliefs. Truth-seeking is appropriate. The assumption that whatever we think is right actually is right and that our "opponent" must be beaten, rather than understood, is the petard that is going to fuck this country right into the ocean (that is an exaggeration for poetic effect).
Yes, maybe my expectations are too high, in which case I will stop posting about my viewpoints here indefinitely, as continuing to lower one's expectations is not the only response, nor the appropriate one for my situation. I have, however, been posting with the expectations that others in the discussion were at least pretending to listen. It's a communication medium, after all.
A strawman is a mischaracterization of somebody else's argument, not merely something to call any position you find messy and poorly thought-out. The word you're looking for might be "illogical" or "unclear." I agree that my position might be unclear. That is why I thank people like SalmonGod, Truean, Glowcat, and Bauglir, who are all better at expressing my viewpoint than I am.
I would like to know whose argument I am mischaracterizing. As far as I can tell, I am only arguing against the positions I have actually heard, and the implications and conclusions actually being drawn. I would like, in particular, to see quotations of the things that someone else said, and of my mischaracterizations, so that I can see them together and perhaps clarify my intentions.