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DrPoo

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Dealing with depression caused by best friend absense?
« on: January 02, 2012, 04:17:50 pm »

My friends computer broke, and he havent fixed it yet, it has been like that in 3 months now.
We have no contact other than when he is at his relatives houses, very irregularily like every second month or so.
He came here in september, he actually used to be a frequenter here, a lover of death metal and dwarfly madness.
We shared alot, we founded a fucking game together. He took me like a motherfucking space jesus and pulled me out of my depression, and kept it away.
He could make any of the constant inflow of shit days a fucking party day, and just kept me alive, like a second heart, like an expansion to my oh so tiny soul, he was an egokiller, i swear, i could jump in the sea and swim all the way to Adelaide to find him, even if the search itself would take all of my lifetime. He was my personal friend of misery.

Now our contact is broken, has been for months and i cant do anything anymore, my lifesupport is gone and breathing this life as we call it seems harder for every day in his absense.
I know the day he returns i will be baffled, and delighted, and the warmth will return within weeks, but untill then i am pretty much fucked.

Sometimes i get so sad that my logic disappears and all theres left is melodramatic, overly poetic shitposting on random forums. help me.
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Re: Dealing with depression caused by best friend absense?
« Reply #1 on: January 02, 2012, 04:33:26 pm »

So I guess phone calls and texting are out of the question?  Seriously, make more friends.  You absolutely cannot depend on the support of one individual.

As has been stating here before, we're LA.  We're more than happy to talk.  We're more than happy to help.  We're more than happy to be your friend.  We are not a psychiatrist nor therapist.  If any one of us has an MD, I sure don't know about it.  Don't count on us for anything like that.

If you refuse to make friends or associate with a church or community or something, then the best real advice I can give is that you should always make sure you have something to look forward to every day.

PS - There have been a number of threads like this before.  Search is your friend.  These threads tend to be aggravating for all involved.
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Re: Dealing with depression caused by best friend absense?
« Reply #2 on: January 02, 2012, 06:56:35 pm »

So I guess phone calls and texting are out of the question?  Seriously, make more friends.  You absolutely cannot depend on the support of one individual.

As has been stating here before, we're LA.  We're more than happy to talk.  We're more than happy to help.  We're more than happy to be your friend.  We are not a psychiatrist nor therapist.  If any one of us has an MD, I sure don't know about it.  Don't count on us for anything like that.

If you refuse to make friends or associate with a church or community or something, then the best real advice I can give is that you should always make sure you have something to look forward to every day.

PS - There have been a number of threads like this before.  Search is your friend.  These threads tend to be aggravating for all involved.

I have tried to make friends with people, but they are either boring or they dont understand me/dont want me/only keeps me because i fixed their computer/helps them with science homework.
I have friends, i have  a handful or two, but most of them are too busy with everything, he was the only guy to come and be a fantastic friend, he likes me for everything i am, he is like a mirror with cracks in, shows myself partially but has quite a few differences. He is fantastic, he actually says i am the awesomest person he has ever known, even though our relationship has been entirely electronic. I love him, not in the homosexual way, but like you would with the most fantastic person you have ever known. Hell maybe he is a socialist, maybe he really dislikes anything with a clean voice in or with some electronic sounds, but he is amazing.

I used to have him and my computer and my crappy guitar.
Now i only got my computer and my crappy guitar, maybe my Ibanez RG2228 is rolling in very soon, that amazing artifact  of an 8 string guitar is, but my friend is all i want.
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Re: Dealing with depression caused by best friend absense?
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2012, 07:32:59 pm »

I'm so going to regret involving myself here...

I know how you feel, man.  My friends are about the only thing in the world that matter to me.  I involved myself with a group that was a very accepting community that I so didn't belong with, but they let me stay anyway.  What I'm saying is, try to find something, anything at all, and involve yourself.  They'll either show you that you don't want to be there or show you why you do belong there.  You'll probably have to look around before you find some place comfortable, but it's worth the trouble.

I try to always have someone I can call.  Or listen to music if I really can't find someone.

Like I said before, try to have something to look forward to every day.  What do you have to look forward to today?  Tomorrow?
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Re: Dealing with depression caused by best friend absense?
« Reply #4 on: January 03, 2012, 01:31:41 am »

Sorry for involving you. Your advice is good, thanks.
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« Reply #5 on: January 03, 2012, 02:30:48 am »

The whole idea is to help you.  I'm not qualified to do so, but if there's anything I actually can do, I want to.  A lot of it is up to you, though.  Be sure to keep us posted.  And at least consider getting a counselor if you think you're feeling real depression and my advice doesn't make it go away.
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Re: Dealing with depression caused by best friend absense?
« Reply #6 on: January 04, 2012, 04:52:22 am »

What the fuck broke my computer speakers? They were working fine before my computer got that pain in the arse virus.

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Re: Dealing with depression caused by best friend absense?
« Reply #7 on: January 04, 2012, 05:11:25 am »

What the fuck broke my computer speakers? They were working fine before my computer got that pain in the arse virus.

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Lolwhat?
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Re: Dealing with depression caused by best friend absense?
« Reply #8 on: January 04, 2012, 12:43:09 pm »

Yay he returned
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