I have one game for you:
Die by the sword
DbtS is hard more so because of getting used to the controls since they generally allow you to swing your sword in the most useless of ways. Although it is fun.
You should at least give the demo for Lugaru a try. Taking weapons into combat is dangerous for everyone involved as disarming is common. Attacks can be countered and counters can be countered too. I recently reinstalled this and I'm having a blast.
This. The controls are fairly simple, but accomplish a lot. Not to mention the later challenge levels. I only ever played on the easiest difficulty, and it was already difficult enough getting through the levels with wolves.
Also, I just remembered the perfect game -
Colosseum: Road to Freedom for the PS2 (aka Gladiator, heard it's also for the PSP now - EDIT: called Gladiator Begins on the PSP). A sort of arena fighter with RPG elements. You train your gladiator and have him participate in arena battles every few days. Thing is, you need to fight much better than everyone else in the arena, as healing between battles costs a lot and you need to participate in multiple events to make decent money. Stringing together combos is a vital part of being better rated (and thus earning more money), so you can't really go through fights with hit and run tactics, you need to stay on your enemy, keep striking and dodge at just the right time.