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Vector

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Re: On Compromise
« Reply #45 on: January 12, 2011, 10:56:47 pm »

Oh-ho.  I was going to lock this because I had figured out a good deal about the problem, and then you come along with a lovely post to put everything else in perspective.

Thank you very much for this, and welcome to the forums =)
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Lekegolo Khanid

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Re: On Compromise
« Reply #46 on: January 13, 2011, 07:46:12 pm »

Who gives a flying f**k what people think. Wear whatever you feel good in. If having people that don't know you, and don't care about you think highly of you is important to you feeling good... you have some issues imo lol. If they do know you and do care about you your clothing shouldn't matter.

I don't like it when guys pretend to catcall me because they think I'd be such a ridiculous person to catcall.

It's embarrassing and happens with some frequency.

Does that give me "issues?"  I don't know.  But man, the interruptions when I'm just walking around are annoying.  I also occasionally think about how nice it would be to straighten my hair so I wouldn't have people running around Hitler-saluting me if I take a walk on Saturdays.  Or all kinds of other personal changes with similar aims.

There's something you don't seem to understand, which is that for a woman, one's appearance still has a significant impact on salary and social perception.  If I get attacked "for being a Jew," then let's be serious here--it's probably game over for me.  That doesn't mean I'm doing anything about my hair, just because I've been mistaken for the "wrong" racial group once or twice.  It does mean, however, that I'm thinking seriously about the benefits of blending in as I become more of an adult.


I get curly haired f*ck XD. You know what I do? Nothing, I could take on the alpha male role and calmly and confidently confront them (if you demand respect and act like it is deserved you will receive it, without fail), but I cant be arsed, not worth the effort. I just keep walking and smile because honestly, I KNOW I'm better then people like that lol.
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Re: On Compromise
« Reply #47 on: February 08, 2011, 08:16:01 pm »

You may benefit from joining my non-mainstream religion
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