I having problems getting answers to my mod questions. I think I am so ignorant of how to go about it and the wiki provides so few details that when people try to explain to me I don't fully understand, and then they don't want to have to go into further detail because hand holding is exhausting.,
Most of us learn modding by trial and error, so when you ask something we haven't done yet, we really can't help you too much because we genuinely don't know.
I get the impression you could still use some practice with the basic syntax. in my experience, when you're just starting out it's good practice to start with known good raws from vanilla or a mod that you know works, and only change things a few at a time that you really understand. The wiki isn't a "textbook" maybe, but it's a great reference manual, and it tells you comprehensively what every token does, so when you're looking up one thing at a time it's a great resource. Once you're comfortable with the basics then you'll be better able to debug things when you're really doing trial and error stuff, and you'll have less chances of making more than one mistake at a time when you're writing a big chunk of raws from scratch.