One of my brothers is going to be paying a visit to our family home.
He's been gone out of state for 6 years. Total radio silence from him. There are several reasons I don't trust this jerk.
He is incredibly controlling, disruptive and rude. The last time he was here was a disaster. I can already hear him spouting off about how things need to be different (they can't be; it's the economy).
Dad can't find a job, because there are none, so instead he sells used cars on the side that he buys and fixes up. Mom, who has numerous mental problems I feel bad for her about, complains about this constantly. There's nothing to be done. Nobody is going to hire my almost 70 year old dad, even if there were jobs. No, it's not a steady paycheck, but it's what he can get. We're not destitute and she should be grateful for it, because a lot of people are.
I also can't find a decent job. I help dad with marketing cars, around the house etc and I don't even ask them for money while my own ship sinks. I live with mom and dad while helping them as much as I can and looking for work. Again, it's the economy....
I'm sure my brother will not be satisfied with any of this and will complain like crazy while he is here. He's going to come in here, stir things up, and then leave again for several years. He won't have to deal with the consequences of his stirring shit up, but me and my parents certainly will. Sure man, come right on in, tell us all how to live ' cause you're brilliant and we're all dumb as hell, then leave again.... [sigh]
It's no accident that he plans to come on Mother's Day, so he can capitalize on my mom missing her kid. This is the first we've heard of him in several years, nothing on Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother's Day, Father's Day, nothing.... Not a phone call, not an email, nothing. Prior to that, he was a menace.
I'm planning to avoid him as much as possible, but it's a small house. He's going to wormtongue my mom and stir up all her mental problems and berate my dad for not having a job. He's going to bitch at both of them about why and how I suck; I'm sure. I'm sure he'll try it with me, but I'll tell him to screw off and make it clear I'm recording everything he says so he can spend some time in an out of state jail if he goes too far again. I'm planning on avoiding him, but it's mother's day, so most of my friends will be occupied with that, so....
How do I get through this?